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2 Penelope P
1d ·
Tired and have to work tomorrow. More emotional battling today. Yawn. Did I mention that I'm tired?? 😴😴😴
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1 Penelope P
2d ·
Had a little blackbird chick in my garden but he ran next door, where there is a cat 😯 Spoke to M and picked him up on the still being friends with his ex situation. He really doesn't get it.
Penelope P
2d ·

Is it a man thing? Nobody I know is still mates with their ex but admittedly they are normal thinking women. All my friends think it is odd. I suggested she still controls him like she did in marriage.

Penelope P
2d ·

I don't think I'm being unreasonable here. I told him perhaps the friends he keeps are like minded to him. Duplicitous and disloyal? Mmm. I can't see me ever getting past this because of my issue with cheats. No apologies.

Jenny D
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Jeff M
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Jeff M
2d ·

I've had relationships where I stayed friends with my ex. If you care about someone for a long time but it won't work out long-term, you can still care about them even if you're not in a relationship. Not all break-ups are bad, I guess.

Jeff M
2d ·

That being said, it's good you tell him it makes you uncomfortable, and he should talk to you about it.

nixiblu .
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Anna D
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Penelope P
1d ·

Thanks Jeff. I can see how it is different if you just can't live/stay together romantically but it's the cheating thing I guess I have the problem with. It shows the true colours of a person in my opinion, and I wouldn't want them still in my life.

Alicia B
1d ·

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Penelope P
1d ·

Perhaps I am being petty, childish, unreasonable whichever. But if I lose him over it then that's what will be.

Alicia B
1d ·

I used to be friends with some exes when I was still living in Moscow. Now they are too far away, both physically and mentally. I'm not sure it was a good thing for us to be friends back then, I think it's better the way it is now.

Alicia B
1d ·

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4 Penelope P
2d ·
Boris is getting on my wick now. Yes, what took me so long. Work is wick testing also.
Zoe D
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4 Penelope P
3d ·
Met a friend who understands but she doesn't really have any advice for me apart from speak up. It made a nice change to see her though, she is a good friend to me.
Jeff M
3d ·

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3 Penelope P
4d ·
Back at work, ugh. Called M tonight just to chat because I love him so very much despite it all.
Jenny D
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3 Penelope P
5d ·
M came round and we walked to watch some bowls then came back and watched the cricket World Cup. I must love him for me to sit through cricket 😴 We laughed and got along and it was almost perfect.
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1 Penelope P
6d ·
Keep bursting into tears. Not normal. Part of it is pms though, at least I recognise that. The other part is people.
Metron A
6d ·

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6d ·

I sympathize with you! ❤❤

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2 Penelope P
7d ·
Went to the shop early. I'm still quite down. The tears prick my eyes constantly. I may be being stupid but I feel so unwanted and insignificant. I should be feeling reassured and loved for a change.
Penelope P
7d ·

He is everything I ever wanted. Just I never feel like he is really mine.

tEnT S
7d ·

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Alicia B
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Alicia B
7d ·

You do deserve to feel loved and reassured. 🙁 hope that happens soon. Lots of hugs

Gabrielle H
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Penelope P
6d ·

Thank you all x

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3 Penelope P
7d ·
Went out with M. When he asked if I would stay over at his if he moved to the town where his ex wife lives, I said a flat no. If he doesn't get it then I'm not going to explain it to him.
Penelope P
7d ·

I don't think I'm being unreasonable. He saw her on Wednesday. Why he has to be “adult” about it I have no idea. He owes her nothing, no children involved. Just let it go for goodness sake.

Penelope P
7d ·

I'm not in touch with my exes. There is no need to be civil. He slags her off to me anyway. But I'm not interested. He is just being plain weird and borderline stalkerish.

Penelope P
7d ·

Fed up of this now, all the talk of moving nearer to her than he is to me. How ridiculous. If he is not careful then it will drive a wedge between us. And he can double date with them and a new gf.

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7d · NEW

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Rainbow U
7d · NEW

I think you're absolutely right, you don't deserve to be constantly reminded of her and deal with that stress. I do think, though, that you should tell it to him clearly. If he doesn't stop, then he's not giving you what you deserve. <3

Robert H
7d ·

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Penelope P
7d ·

I may have to pluck up the courage at some point. If he moves there then I think that will be the end of us. He will see it as me being over sensitive and petty about it. He should understand how it feels.

Penelope P
7d ·

She cheated on him, I was cheated on. Even if it's an imagined threat, i will always feel like second best and insecure when cheaters are around.

nixiblu .
6d ·

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nixiblu .
6d ·

I am best friends with my ex husband, perhaps because we are the ones who best know each other. We both have new partners and are able to support each other. I think the new partners understand that it is only friendship

nixiblu .
6d ·

He's been with his partner nearly 3 years

nixiblu .
6d ·

She did find it hard at first. Mine is yet to meet them. But talks to his ex. I guess lives are complex

Penelope P
6d ·

Sorry nixi but I just find it strange he would want to keep a cheater and someone who hurt him real bad in his life still. I know I don't. I have a real issue with people who cheat and lie, I wouldn't want to be friends with such.

Melody L
6d ·

It's totally normal if you feel like that. Nothing oversensitive about this. And he should understan that.

nixiblu .
6d ·

Sorry Penelope. I may be the devil here, it's up to him to forgive the cheats and lies. I've been cheated on 2x. One I will forgive and am friends with, one I wish to never see again.

nixiblu .
6d ·

Speak to him about it.. ... I don't understand how you could forgive....... You are a good person, can you tell me about it? That's what I wish I would do in your situation

Penelope P
5d ·

Thanks nixi, you are a much better person than me. I know some may think I'm being childish about it and stamping my foot but it's my particular sore nerve. I find it hard to talk to him at the moment.

Penelope P
5d ·

If he brings it up again then I will try to explain how I feel. If I say how it makes me feel that he will be living a few streets away from her but yet 15 miles away from me then he may see my perspective.

Penelope P
5d ·

Thanks too Melody x

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1 Penelope P
11 Jul 2019 ·
I've knocked back M asking me to go out today. I'm really down and it goes beyond the situation with him. Tears always welling in my eyes. Just mooching around doing nothing.
Penelope P
11 Jul 2019 ·

I hate my work. I can't talk to friends. I can't afford to go on dates with M. He's still in contact with his ex which I find weird. I can't get close to him, he has no desire for me. Everything is wrong.

Penelope P
11 Jul 2019 ·

I can't find joy in anything. I have no future to look forward to. I'm trapped in this misery and the only thing I can do and afford to do is keep quiet and accept what is not enough for me.

Penelope P
11 Jul 2019 ·

Be careful what you wish for because all that glitters is not gold my friends.

Jeff M
11 Jul 2019 ·

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Jeff M
11 Jul 2019 ·

Aw, sorry to see you so low, Pen. I know you're having a really hard time finding a way to deal with M when it's not the way you want it to be. But my advice would be to keep him close, even if it's not the type of relationship you want, because...

Jeff M
11 Jul 2019 ·

...it's really hard to find those kinds of friendships, and you need that right now. We're all here for you too!

Melody L
11 Jul 2019 ·

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Robert H
12 Jul 2019 ·

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7d · NEW

I wish I could give you a real life hug right now ❤️ things won't stay as bad as they are, you'll see ❤️

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3 Penelope P
10 Jul 2019 ·
Going far, getting nowhere...
Brooke M
10 Jul 2019 ·

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11 Jul 2019 ·

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11 Jul 2019 ·

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4 Penelope P
10 Jul 2019 ·
Managed to talk to M a little tonight about the way I feel when he “teases” me. It helped a bit. He says he cares for me and trusts me. Is that enough? I want him to love me really.
Robert H
10 Jul 2019 ·

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10 Jul 2019 ·

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10 Jul 2019 ·

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John T
10 Jul 2019 ·

Communication is good

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10 Jul 2019 ·

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3 Penelope P
08 Jul 2019 ·
Had toothache for four days but it's eased tonight. Spent the afternoon and evening with M. Can't work out if he's pushing me away or if the scales are simply falling from my eyes. Still upset.
Penelope P
08 Jul 2019 ·

I can't see me ever breaking down the wall that has been built up. There's no real affection, no feeling, no intimacy anymore. It hurts me because I love him so much. Or loved? I don't know.

Jenny D
08 Jul 2019 ·

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me M
08 Jul 2019 ·

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08 Jul 2019 ·

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2 Penelope P
07 Jul 2019 ·
Seeing M today. That isn't going to be awkward at all!!!!! ☹️
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07 Jul 2019 ·

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07 Jul 2019 ·

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07 Jul 2019 ·

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07 Jul 2019 ·

Good luck

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07 Jul 2019 ·

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1 Penelope P
06 Jul 2019 ·
Was going to go watch the carnival parade but I'm too upset now. Crying in public is not a good look.
Gabrielle H
06 Jul 2019 ·

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06 Jul 2019 ·

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06 Jul 2019 ·

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07 Jul 2019 ·

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07 Jul 2019 ·

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07 Jul 2019 ·

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2 Penelope P
06 Jul 2019 ·
So texting your ex with a pointless question is not weird. Oh hell, this has got to ease off now until it's finished. Just get his birthday over with and then I'm withdrawing. And I mean it this time.
Gabrielle H
06 Jul 2019 ·

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06 Jul 2019 ·

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06 Jul 2019 ·

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07 Jul 2019 ·

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3 Penelope P
06 Jul 2019 ·
Had a nice afternoon with M. But we seem to have gone backwards with intimacy. Nothing for over a month. Frustrated for something I'm not even really that interested in.
Jen B
06 Jul 2019 ·

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06 Jul 2019 ·

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1 Penelope P
30 Jun 2019 ·
M just turned up yesterday. I had a friend dropping stuff off so I was busy plus I didn't want to see him. He asked if he could come round today. Ate tea I cooked him in exchange for an awkward cuddle
Penelope P
30 Jun 2019 ·

It's just not enough. I'm scared this is ending soon. Can't speak to him, it's just too difficult and constant rejection is painful.

Snail M
01 Jul 2019 ·

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01 Jul 2019 ·

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01 Jul 2019 ·

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01 Jul 2019 ·

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Melody L
01 Jul 2019 ·

I'm in a similar situation. It's like reading my own thoughts...

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01 Jul 2019 ·

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2 Penelope P
28 Jun 2019 ·
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28 Jun 2019 ·

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28 Jun 2019 ·

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28 Jun 2019 ·

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28 Jun 2019 ·

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28 Jun 2019 ·

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Albertine M
28 Jun 2019 ·

Sorry to see you so low, Pen. My email is on the site John set up, if you ever want to talk. Been in that situation with a guy and it is so difficult to know what is best to do. Thinking of you xx

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28 Jun 2019 ·

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1 Penelope P
25 Jun 2019 ·
Still tearful and deeply hurt. At least I'm coping with work, keeping myself busy so the tears don't have time to fall.
Zoe D
25 Jun 2019 ·

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25 Jun 2019 ·

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