At least you aware of what's happening. If you can change how you think you can how you feel and behave. That's the key, but it's hard to grasp the moment and argue against the bad thoughts. Possible though!
I'll do my best to see the positive side of things :)
Try talking to your GP or a mental health professional about this, they'll be help you well. I think you're doing great anyway discussing this here, but consider your GP!
Hi John. I'm still looking for a therapist. It's really hard to find one with open spots around here but I'll definitely talk to them about it as soon as I find one. :)
A dr could help too. Unless there's some translation issues, most therapists would be less qualified. I think you are brave and you are probably helping others who feel the same just by writing about it. Stay well.
Thanks John. You're so kind :)
My doctor doesn't really help.. she just tells me to get a therapist, but I haven't told her about the eating disorder yet. Just about the depression. I might tell her. Maybe she can help. :)
When I talked to my doctor about the depression she handed me a number to call. I'm sure your doctor can also recommend some therapists.
I'll ask her if she can next time I see her. Last time she just told me to look for one, but maybe if I ask her directly, she will.
I'd definitely recommend telling her about the eating disorder too! You'll get better with a bit of help. Just stay as well as you can day to day.
Try this site: therapie. de There you can choose a filter option called 'free spots available'. Hopefully this will show some free therapists in your area!
@Lydia omg thank you so much!!! That's really helpful. I'll check it out
Really hope this actually works the way it seems to! Would be great if you could find someone. Keep us posted!
I checked out the site but sadly the therapists from the site in my area only take people who pay themselves or are privately insured. I live in a pretty small City so there isn't that much to choose from. Thanks anyways for the tip. :)
I'll definitely keep the site in mind for when I move back to Hamburg one day :)
See if your GP can put you on a waiting list... Better than nothing.
I feel so alone with this but I don't want to talk to anyone about it because they'd just make me eat and I don't want that
Can you access professional help for this? Or maybe talk to someone who knows how to make it better? Look after yourself. A lot of people have these feelings, you are not alone, but you are loved by your friends and family, so try to carry on.
Yes, I agree with John. A professional can help you change that thought process and learn how to be healthy. It really is unhealthy to not eat, and we can see you know that. You have to change how you feel about food and yourself...
Friends and family care, but they often don't say the right thing. A professional can help you!
Thanks everyone. I still have to get a therapist but I always forget to call one. I already have a list of some in my area that I can call and I should probably do that soon but I somehow always forget. Maybe it's because a part of me doesn't (1/2)
...want help, but I know I really really need it. (2/2)
Can you ask someone to make that call for you? Or do they have email addresses? Maybe writing is easier for you than talking.
I asked a friend to remind me every day but she hasn't done that. Email is a good idea. I'll try to reach them now so that I don't forget. :)
You do not have to be extreme, the secret is in balance. An apple is healthy, you may eat more healthy things every day. Food is good and is fun. Hugs. Do it for yourself, search what make you feel good and healty, care for yourself
I can remind you, too. I can be quite relentless. 😉
I recommend Lydia as someone to chat to off MoodPanda, she is very helpful, kind, and lovely. 👍🏻🕵🏻♂️👨🏻⚕️
lol thanks. That looks like I asked you to write this. 😂 (and they don't wear moustaches and one of them is blond)
Lydia, people are allowed to be nice, ok! 😋
Sounds wrong to me.. 🤔
If you could see yourself from someone else's point of view you would be so pleasantly surprised! 🙄 Here's an umbrella I found ☂️.
Thank you guys so much ^^ @Lydia that would be really great. Thank you so much. I called the place I wanna go to yesterday. Sadly they don't have email and they said their calling times on Monday are at 12.30-i think 14 I'm clock (German time)
I'd be really grateful if you'd remind me then :)
Well, almost time for the call. Get ready! Less than an hour. Drink something, go to the loo, do your voice practice and relax. 😉
Thanks for the reminder. ^^ sadly this therapist can't be called in Fridays but a colleague of mine brought me to this place where there's a lot of therapists in training and they told me how to sign up so I'm gonna do that tonight. ^^
I'm still gonna call the other therapist on Monday though
Good idea. If you're a student you could also check if your uni offers therapy. That's where I've found my new therapist. Trying to think of reminding you on Monday again!
Thank you Lydia. Sadly I don't go to Uni, but thanks anyways for the tip :)
Yay! That's great!
Glad to read!
Sorry to hear that Occamy. Do you have friends nearby?
Sadly only in another city. :( I moved a year ago and haven't made any new friends here yet
Sorry to hear that Occamy. I was the same a few year back and I used an app called MeetUp which introduced me to people and interests similar to my own (and I learnt to rock climb). It may be helpful to you too?
Thanks for the Tipp! I'll check it out. Hopefully it works in Germany too :)
If we share 50% of our DNA with a banana, you are probably more like them than you think, and it's what's different that make you, you! So enjoy being whoever you are, you are loved whatever by those close to you, and nothing else matters.
Please seek help as this will escalate. Please get treatment this now and consider it urgent.
I will. I already told my friend to remind me every day to look for a therapist since I always forget. Thanks everyone!
Fellow German Panda?
Keine Ahnung, ob wir das schon mal festgestellt hatten (Hirn wie ein Sieb), aber welcome welcome! :D
Lydia, Occamy hast ein alt Name alfang mit „A“.
Genau. Ich hieß vorher Antonia :D
Ich habe eine Katze.
Ich auch :D
Mein lieblingsfarbe ist rot.
Meine ist grün :D
Dein alter Name war mir noch im Gedächtnis, aber zur Zeit bin ich ein zerstreuter Professor. Katze habe ich auch (bzw. meine Eltern) und Rot mag ich verhältnismäßig auch am Meisten. Wobei ich regelmäßig neue Lieblingsfarben/-kombinationen habe.
Das mit dem zerstreut sein kenn ich :D bei mir bleibt es immer grün. Deswegen hab ich momentan auch grüne Haare :D
What a blessing you are to have as a friend.
When you're like this, I wouldn't recommend meals. At your regular meal times, eat a very small version of what you normally would (e.g. instead of a salad, go for a few pieces of carrot or cucumber).
But then between meals, make sure to have some kind of snack/light food near you to eat from every once in a while. I'd recommend things like crackers, dry cereal, and maybe some sort of nut if you're not allergic.
As for drinks, smoothies are your friends. If you feel down/withour energy, a cup of smoothie (or juice) may make you feel a little more energetic. Also, you may find that liquids are easier for you to handle - a little bit of soup may be possible.
Though I do hope you'll be feeling better soon! Please go easy on your body but do try to keep it fed if you can.
Also, there are good meal substitutes out there for when you can't get yourself to eat. Pedialyte is an excellent one. You need strength to feel better! And you need to eat something to get strength.
Thank you so much for the Tipps :) I'll keep them in mind
Do you the flue?
I know you may be feeling that way, it's hard to start loving yourself. Many people don't, It take a lot of work. You're not alone, I give all my loving thoughts to you. I hope you will get better with time
That is true I don't like myself eather. Because I have ADHD.