Oh and I decided to try the fried chicken down the road, it was tasty! I noticed that I do feel bogged down after eating fatty food, though.
Apart from that I'm just trying to arrange my final days. I have six days left in Australia now...
Oh wow! Where are you moving to? (if you don't mind my asking; you don't have to answer) Hope all goes smoothly and you stay in touch on MP. We love you here!
Weird dreams. Maths lecturer walking on thin ledge to get to lecture 'stand'. Theatre is more like someone's front room, but with half the walls missing. Turns out he's using a CD player, headphones or something, could be he's repeating what he hears
Then I am chilling next to him on couch, using his jumper as a blanket. There's a couple other people with us. He forces a wet kiss which tastes intensely of metal onto me, the others are shocked. I push him off. Then he goes outside behind the house
and climbs a tree, which he shares with a huge green snake. He keeps throwing empty wine glasses at the Windows, I'm worried that they'll break, other man in house says the windows won't break, but I am not so sure.
He also was quite short, slightly tanned, definitely old, he had grey flecks of hair evenly spaced out in his brown hair, with small brown eyes and very mousy looking face.
Wow, so many metaphors in there
Do tell Rorschach, I'm interested in dream metaphors but they're usually lost on me!
I believe metaphors are unique to certain people. For example, the significance of using someones jumper as a blanket would mean something different to you than it would to me. I can point them all out but I don't know how your mind interprets them
1. Thin ledge on lecture stand 2. Half a wall missing in a room 3. CD player with headphones 4. Repeating what he hears (like a broken record perhaps). 5. Sitting next to a teacher/lecurer on a couch (is this forbidden in your mind normally?). 6.
wearing someones jumper as a blanket (perhaps being comforted by a person of authority) 7. Forced wet kiss 8. Taste of metal (blood tastes like metal) 8. People watching are shocked by this behaviour (did you like it until they seemingly
disapproved ?) 9. Going behind a house 10. Climbing a tree (like some sort of obstacle) 11. The tree is shared with a huge green snake (Sounds like a biblical reference to the interpretation of the serpent aka devil in the tree tempting Adam to eat
the apple to me). 12. Empty wine glasses been thrown at windows 13. Being 'told' that the windows 'won't break' (defies logic, maybe someone has made you believe something you knew logically wasn't true recently). 14. The description you gave of the
short old man. (Does he remind you of someone?)
Very interesting indeed. I find these dreams don't make much sense, but I do get the sweater thing, for sure..perhaps I'm craving being comforted, perhaps a lecturer represents someone who can show me the way? Perhaps it's a lesson that I don't feel
prepared to 'go my own way', I'm still counting on dubious sources of guidance. I realise thinking about the metaphors actually makes me feel uncomfortable, probably because there's truth inside...
As for 8 i was enjoying it, in a way, but, yes, I felt shocked and bewildered by bad taste... Then judged by myself and others. I like your interpretation of 13!
Hmm, he didn't remind me of anyone that I can think of, I think his hair might be described in Game of Thrones, maybe that's where the hair came from...But I don't recognise the man.
Yes, very interesting indeed (hope my words aren't causing any of this discomfort, sorry if they are). Try to think more broadly about the guy and the description you gave rather than the memory of the actual guy (if that makes sense). It may be
anything from a real life person or a character in a movie or book etc. I'm always wary that dreams are our subconscious mind expressing itself. Interpretation is sometimes a view to a part of our mind that's not so easily accessible.
Oh btw, I'm only sharing my thoughts to help in your interpretation. Please don't feel obliged to explain any of this to me :) (I'm only offering 'help' not prying into your inner space).
No worries R, I appreciate the insights. I think most people wouldn't give two hoots about someone else's dreams, lol. Definitely think I tend to focus too much on the detail, that's why I tend to miss the bigger picture in these dreams.
I've been thinking of keeping a dream journal for a long time...
I also made healthy food choices today, fruit, veggies, tasty salads, vegetarian curry (no bread). My only treat was a hot chocolate, which I really enjoyed. But the salads were amazing, too.
It's always nice to treat oneself to quality time. Take care. Big Hugs. Enjoy Binky
Sounds like a lovely day!
Veggie curry is one of my favs!
Good for you! I always make bad food choices when I'm out shopping and exploring and taking time off. I need routine to eat well. Glad you had a good day!
Thanks Stephen, Manda, Claire and Jeff!
ironic, but funny. laser tag is fun. Was at a l.t. party yesterday, too.
It really was fun, it was my first time. I really enjoyed losing my laser tag virginity xD it was mine and my colleague's leaving do, bowling actually made me a bit nervous, I think because I don't like having eyes on me. I used to play league
bowling when I was a kid, I was at least as nervous then, probably more. Were you playing LT with your kids, Love? Sending you intergalactic later tag vibes :-)
Laser* too* ;)
My sons were playing with their bros. So that's what that jolt was. I felt a vibration in my heart. Got tagged.
I didn't get much sleep last night but I'm feeling good, glad to be out and about in the city. There is sad news about bomb attack at the Arianna Grande concert in Manchester. My uncle called me this morning to tell me the sad news.
Boss pulled me up on something small (triggered) then made a joke about firing me (hurt, taking self too seriously). I know she didn't mean it, but I'm glad I didn't react much to it. I definitely see how reacting would've just made it so much worse.
Part of me (stupid conditioned monkey brain) still believes that I'm weak by not reacting to things, as if I should react and 'stand up for myself'. Maybe that would've worked if I was still in school, but this is the workplace.
I felt attacked, unjustly, because that was the only mistake I'd made that day, and it was so small. My teenage brain kicked in, I'm thinking, 'for God's sake, give me a break!!' Later others made the exact same mistake, boss asking, 'who did this?'.
Anyway, by that point I'd let go of it a bit and was able to make a joke of it. Anyway I hope I can improve my responses. I wish 'hindsight goggles' were a thing. Then I'd be able to cheat, and access the hindsight wisdom ahead of time ;-)
Alas, I suppose practise makes perfect.
Oh yea, I totally understand this feeling. You did very well there Binky. As they say, between the stimulus and our reaction is a gap. You exploited that gap beautifully. Nicely done mate. :)
Response vs. Reaction. Nicely done :)
Thanks so much Rorschach and Asya. Hugs x
Take good care Binky
Thanks Stephen :-) thank you all x
Now you're adding hand modeling to your resume? You just don't stop! xx
I used to be an elbow model. People say I have beautiful elbows. If you need advice I can help u jump start your career. My elbows were featured in Elbow Ointments magazine, Vogue, GQ, Mens Fitness, O!
Thanks Manda, Rorschach & Love 1 :-) Love just be careful people don't confuse your elbow crotch with a butt.
Take care & look after yourself. I wish a good day at work. Big hugs BB
It's 8-4 here ha! I know what you mean, even tho I must say I might prefer 8-4 because it gives you stability and free evenings
8 to 4 Claire? Next thing you will tell me Finnish people have lunch at 11am. Whats that? they do? I'm coming over there NOW
I remember that feeling you are having Binky (way back when). It's tiring at first but you will adjust, trust me you will be fine.
Thanks dear Stephen C, work was good :-) Claire I kinda wish we had 8-4, if I could coax my stupid monkey brain into getting up earlier. Rorschach, thank you. I hope I'll get there one day.
What book are you reading?
Reading the first Game of Thrones book :-) x
Ha ha R! We also have nightless nights in the middle of summer when the sun doesn't set at all, and other cool stuff. Welcome!
Oh wow, really? That's crazy! Does it do the opposite in winter?
Cool, Binky. I loved those books & refused to watch the TV show until I finished them. Now the show is ahead of the story & I heard he isn't even putting the next one out. I hope that's just a rumor. SO AWESOME, Claire!
Normal to feel that way. Maybe they are, too. We meet with goodwill in that vulnerable place. Send them thoughts of loving kindness.
Conversation dynamics in large groups makes me nervous. I think because I had a traumatic experience when I was bullied in this type of situation before.
I get it. Might help to make it into a game. Games are fun. So, we can approach it with that attitude.
You can give empathy and play with that. See how deep a connection you can make with a stranger.
You can get people to talk about themselves. Most people love that. See if you can learn something.
You can stay open to the experience expecting something beautiful to unfold and see what emerges.
People are fundamentally good. Trust that.
Very interesting. I think the hardest one for me would be 'expecting something beautiful to unfold'. I guess I'm expecting mediocrity and tedium, perhaps restlessness. How to give empathy and loving kindness?
easy. think, may you be happy, May you know peace, love. May you be free from suffering, ignorance, self-criticism, hatred... good thoughts.
as for empathy, one easy technique is simply echoing back what they say. Level 2, paraphrase. Level 3, guess what they're feeling or needing. Always stay with them. We keep ourselves out of it. Give them the gift of your full presence & attention.
Ok. Can this also be applied to self?
Whatever they give you back is their gift to you... could be tears, could be smiles. So long as it's authentic, it's special. It's nice to make people feel heard, seen, validated.
Thank you for sharing these methods of wisdom. I'll let you know how I get on tonight, with empathy. I do usually feel more comfortable when the focus is on the other person in three group situations, anyway.
All went okay, i barely felt anxious at all. Practised empathy (just a little bit) but it is a start. It's good to just practise remembering to see things from a different perspective, instead of getting wrapped up in myself. Helps anxiety.
good point. glad it went well.
Glad it went well. People love talking about themselves.