Authorities can protect you from those things, they take it seriously now. It will mean you have to say goodbye to the life you once knew, but which is worse?
Oh wait, thats not right. I assumed you were in the UK. Either way, i'm sorry for your situation, this is the 21st century and still people are refused the most basic of freedoms... To choose who to love, who to marry.
Do what you must, whatever it takes... whichever is the lesser evil.
How old are you? you'll probably have to choose between your family and freedom of your parents are like that. Women's aid can help you if you want the help but remember you are likely to lose your family forever
Women's aid is in the UK btw, I have no idea where you're from
I'm from London born and raised never in a millions yers thought my mum would do this to me
Can't trust no one... Born alone and I'll die alone, I finally truly understand that phrase
Oh and I'm 19
Would you choose to have a family or have freedom? That is the choice you have to make
have you met the man? is he ok?
If you choose family, then obviously stay at home, get married to that guy etc. but if you are prepared to leave your family, you should call women's aid, they will get you out right away
However dnt think it's easy by yourself, it really isnt. I've been by myself since I just turnd 16, it's hard but I did what I had to
there is a life away from your family worth having x
Mine was through social services and it wasn't the same issue , completely different
I haven't met him I dont know anything except he lives near the airport his mum and him are coming tomorrow or Wednesday and I don't wanna call women's aid and get my mum in trouble
As Iqra says, there are choices, luckily for you you are in the UK. For all the bad things here there are brilliant people wanting to help. But, as we keep saying, you will have to make a hard choice. Family or freedom.
I'm feeling to just leave London and move to another country... See where life takes me
Have you tried talking to your mother about it? Or is there no chance she will refuse to back down? You can always meet the guy, you might actually like him!
I don't know what your relationship with your parents is like (apart frm the forced marriahe) bt if Its ok/decent, I wouldn't advise leavjng. People need a mum otherwise thyll end up fkd up like me
I'm not sure your mum will get in trouble, because by law i don't think she has actually done anything wrong... Yet. Calling womens aid won't get her in trouble, you can talk anonymously to them to start with
What mother forces their 19 year old daughter to meet a complete stranger? I haven't eaten for weeks and she tells me to eat to look nice for hom
Your mum won't get into trouble. You're an adult, they cnt act on your behalf iwithout your permsison
I begged her not to bring him I don't wanna get married... If you seen the movie carrie you will understand how my mother is over religious and in her own world
Tbh I've met many people in this position through plces I've lived at. All I knw is that they regretted it and went bk home in the end
Is she Muslim?
Yes muslim... My brother and sisters hate her for their forced marriages, I thought she changed and understood British societt
Oh right, well maybe if you feel like there's no other way around it thn maybe you should leave and live in a womens refuge, they're nice places
It's fine I been depressed for 10 years now... Not like anything can make me feel worse than I already do... This is probably meant to be my life, maybe I will have peace in another life
I'm not going to comment anymore on this, i hate all forms of religion and what it does to people. 1; talk to your mum again and say tou wont marry a stranger to suit her. If she says orherwise, you have your answer. Good Luck
Lmfao same here Daniel, I hate religions. I live by morals
So what you thinkng of doing mohima
Sorry for my spelling
Ermmmn I live by each day as it comes so I won't know what I'll do until the day comes I guess (most likely move into a friends house until I arrange something with the council)
Not feeling well lol
You can go straight into a refuge, they are very useful. Also there's a thing called a forced marriage protection order and it means your parents cantrell tke you out of the country which would be helpful if you stayed or left your mums
Can't not Cantrell :/
Well the guys from London so
So I'm not getting sent abroad or anything... Might play te £4mill scratch card never kn
Know my luck might turn around lol
Do you think your siblings will stand by you seeing as they aren't enjoying their arranged marriages?
Lol isn't gambling wrong in Islam? :p lol
I can't stand culture and religion, it's all a big joke to me. It messes with people's heads
My siblings live their own lives... I cut them off for my mother that's how much she meant to me so doubt tey would care now
What would she do if you refused to marry him? If she meant that much to you, be careful about cutting ties with her
Hmmmm I really don't know iqra.. I just live as the day comes so let's leave it at that and hope for the best.
Is your dad involved in this as well?
Just saying it because I know what its like to not have a mother figure, it's difficult still and I'm 18 now. But then I was only 16 when I was moved out
But I guess if you have friends it will be easier, I don't talk to anyone which could be why I feel like this
My dad left when I was 7 and now he's dead
if i were you i think i would meet the man, if i liked him then i would say to mum i will see him on dates to see if it works, if you don't like him then would she compromise and arrange something better with your consent?
try and meet half way?
my friend had an arranged marriage but they allowed her to be part of the process and she had options, she is very happy now
I agree. Don't think your mum is a bad person just because of this, it's not ideal but it is the culture and if your parents are cultural, you have to deal with it I'm afraid!
Yeah but why on earth should I agree on a meeting with a random stranger??? I don't want to and she can't make me
Many asian families do that. At least it's not a freshie lol a girl I know got sent back to her home country at age 16 and her dad held a gun to her head to force her to agree. If she'd said no, he would have shot her. At least your mum isn't like that
That's what a FORCED marriage is. Yours sounds more like an arranged marriage tbh
honestly i know this sounds repressed but my mum told me not to marry my hubby and i wish i had listened lol, if you don't want to meet the man could you say you want to focus on a career first or something?
My mum just gets her kids married off when she can't be bothered to deal with them anymore... And no iqra there is no gun to my head but a lot of psychological abuse which I have no energy to deal with
Tell her to ******* then slap her into submission? A last resort obviously :-|
LOOOL hmmm sounds like a plan... But I don't wanna get convicted lol
Do what your mothers wants and you'll be in an emotional prison anyway... Go on Mohima, slap the ***! Even mothers need a wake up call sometimes ;)
Lmao I won't have the heart to hurt her... Just let her know earlier he ain't a mother to me anymore. Hope she knows she lost me forver
Well, she hasn't lost you yet has she! You're trying blackmail first, good plan Mohima... It might just work ;-)
Just letting you guys know I told my mum where to stick it and move this ugly guy away from me :)
Lol what did she say? xD
Yes Mohima, don't tell us only one part of the story... it's just getting interesting and Iggle Piggles and I are biting ours nails in anticipation of the outcome! :-|
good for you x
Basically she didn't say anything just sort of murmured to herself some crap and I waslike
Ill leave home of she true
Grrrrr something is wrong with my app it keeps posting before I can finish typing !!!
lol well at least you sorted it :)
I though you just had a stutter!
Haha very funny Daniel and yes iqra it's all sorted :) x
That sounds like a positive step!! Has she said anything since?
*hug hug hug* :D
i am the same as u but we r ur freinds here on mood panda
I just understand why horrible people have everything but I'd your a decent honest good hearted person you get treated like crap :(
Maybe there's just no explanation to understand! S#&t just happens.
"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding." I know this doesn't fix things; it's just another perspective :-)