It's good to hear that you are feeling better *hugs*
Really glad. Is counselling helping?
I mean: Good to hear that it may get better for you *hugs*
Thats gr8! Hang in there Kamal.
Thanks a lot dear Sandy, Susanne, Tiny and Anonmous.
Thanks Sif and Jigme for the hugs. *Hugs*
The best revenge is to live well.
I hope yr doing oay Kamal, maybe its time 2c a Counsellor?
Sometimes, those Dear Old Friends are better than Drs. in making us feel more up in our moods! Glad you're feeling good, Kamal! Big Hugs!
Thanks for the hugs dear Serena,
Thanks for the hugs dear Serena, Jigme, Debi, Susanne and Tiny. *Hugs*
Yes Debi, correct. Some old friends are like Gems who stand beside us when we need them.
You're welcome Kamal.
It's old story Gaara. I do not want to hurt myself again after writing all the odds though I'm unable to forget them.
Thanks for the hugs dear Susanne, Dots, Jigme and Gaara. *Hugs*
Thanks Jigme, Susanne & Samantha. Hugs back to all of you lovely Pandas.
You're welcome Kamal. *Hugs*
Thanks for the hugs Anonmous. *Hugs*
Thanks for the hugs Susanne and Louise. *Hugs*
Sorry! Think of peaceful things, Kamal. I wish you sleep!hugs!
That sounds like time to get up. Maybe a nap?
Oh dear i hope u manage sum slp.
Did U sleep or nap, Kamal? Hope you had a chance to recover! Hugs!
Well I didn't slept that whole night. Thanks lively Pandas fir the hugs.
Try to find something to hold onto, Kamal! Hugs!
Ya I have to do that. Thanks Debi. :)
Revenge is not the way Kamal because u wud hv 2b someone yr clearly not. Dont stoop 2her level yr better than tht. In fact be kind n happy...it will make her realise just hw much she hurt u. Stay strong i wish u both happiness 2getha <3
Thanks dear Pandas. Anonmous I too never believed in revenge. I can't harm anyone. Don't know why I'm getting this urge. :(
Theres nothing wrong with thinking it but doing it is a whole different thing. Take some space, maybe go away as a family for a few days.
Not possible to go anywhere at this moment Anonmous. But I really will try not to take revenge at all. *Hugs*
Thanks all my lovely Pandas.
Hope u feel better soon...take each day at a time.
Thanks for the hugs dear Pandas. Dear Harp MIL means Mother in Law
And my other half was watching all this. Feeling really pity on myself. :(
don't punish yourself. stand up for yourself. no one deserves to be punished for someone being ignorant and putting them down. your other half should feel shame for not saying something
Thanks a lot dear Kelly for the support. *Hugs*
my bad your other half shouldn't feel shame but if it was me I have a mouth and know how to use it! doesn't matter if it is friend family or someone I love if someone is stupid enough to put them down I will be making them feel an inch tall
anytime Kamal it makes me mad that someone would do that to you
In this case both mother and daughter are shameless.
First I tried to oppose her. But than didn't utter a word coz she is elder than me and a part from that she is a woman and I respect women a lot.
But now realizing what she done to me. My image is spoiled in front of others. :(
Its not yr fault, take care.
Thanks all my Pandas.
it is her fault #1 if she had a problem with you then that should have been done in private not in front of people. I would have stuck up for you even if I respected the person
What are you punishing yourself for? What do you deserve punishment for? I doubt you deserve it.
What's a MIL
Thanks for the support dear Kelly and Jigme. Yes that's what I told everyone. Whatever it was, it should had been done in private only. But these mother daughter don't have manners.
Don't know what they expect out of me after I got to know about her affair I forgiven her whole heartedly but now I understood that she doesn't deserve it.
It's really hard to spend life with a cheating spouse. :( I punished myself coz I realized that I should have stopped them at the moment. But I didn't.
About her affair I didn't told anyone in my family and in my in laws. Even when my MIL was accusing me I didn't told her about what her daughter done to me.
Till now no one knows about all this. @Harp.. MIL means Mother in law.
Your mil lives with you? And if you don't mind me asking how is your spouse reacting to all of this?
I am sorry you have to deal with that. Your spouse should be ashamed if she can't stay faithful in her marriage she should leave not drag your mil into it or she should go thru counciling to find out what is causing her actions
Dear Harp, no my MIL doesn't live with us. My wife provoked her to abuse me. :(
Dear Kelly, yes my wife is regretting for what had she done. The reason for dragging my MIL in it could be that she must be feeling unsecure now. That's why she tried to threat me.
Only people who.do wrong need2 justify themselves. Seriously take care Kamal, dnt set yrself up 4a break down. Be weary. Thinking of u *hugs* tc.
In India the law is not that strict and mostly favor women even if they are wrong. In the end justice been done but in starting law listen to women mostly. :(
Thanks a lot dear Anonmous. *Hugs*
she still needs counciling. I hope thing become better for you Kamal
things not thing
Yes Kelly I will take her for counselling. Thanks all for the support and valuable suggestions.
Ah dear friend u h8 d word trust bcoz u hv hd tht word tested. Time n d right choices will bring u 2respect tht word again. I hope u find peace *big hugs*
U cnt go thru life hating yrself & being in pain. Time will nd u2 make choices if u r 2get thru ds bad time. U nd2 find d strength inside. Tc.
Thanks a lot dear Anonmous and Brett.
Whats wrong? *Hugs*
please dont kill yourself
Thanks for the hugs and understanding. Can't even do any harm to myself coz we have a kid. If I do any harm to myself than all my son's life will get spoiled. This is regarding an issue in marriage with my wife. :(
Ive just read yr posts, are u completely sure yr wife cheated on u? im sowi if im spking out of line bt im just trying 2understand u. Im british asian if tht helps so i understand d culture.
Yes Anonmous, I'm 100% sure. I have the proofs. But today it was with my in-laws who insulted me a lot and I even didn't told them what their daughter done to me sometime back.
As I never wanted to put down the mother of my child in front of everyone. After all if I put her down in front of others, than in a way it hurt my image as well as my child's future.
I'm helpless now. Unable to figure out what to do. Thanks again for your understanding my friend.
Im feally sowi yr going thru such s difficult time. u seem like a good person and father.
U may feel like yr helpless but u can take steps such as work out whether u want 2live with her? The decisions u make need2 hv a positive impact 4u n yr son's future. gdluck *hugs*
I'm not sure I have much to offer but hugs. *Hugs*
Thanks Anonmous and Jisme. Leaving her not seems to be an option as of now as my son is very attached to her. This is a marriage of 19 years.
Any wrong step will further devastate my life and my child's career.
My MIL insulted me coz my wife told her different story so that in the future if I tell them about her affair they should not believe.
She tried to hide material facts. I truly forgiven her mistake in the past and moved on. But this time it is impossible for me to forgive her and my MIL. :(
Gdluck all the best Kamal. Trust keeps relationships 2getha & love bonds us if thts not there its difficult 2maintain any relationship. Yr son mayb hurt nw bt 2grow up between 2tense parents cn be disasterous. i knw i hv been thr. All d best x
Thanks a ton dear Anonmous. You wrote some really great words. It touched my heart. Thanks for you suggestions. Hope God provide me the strength to handle this time too. Thanks once again my friend.
Thanks Sa. C.
I started to follow you kamal... lets stay in touch
I hope tht person realise the amount of pain it has caused u and u both resolve things *hugs*
@Anonmous A : Yes the person realized and things are little better now.
im glad *hugs*
Thanks Anonmous A.
oh I want to visit this place some day)))
me too :(