But you're making an effort, and that's what really counts!
Ooooh crab - lucky you!
I know that's likely autocorrect, but today the Animal Crossing game referred to St Paddy's Day as 'Shamrock Day' which I found odd. I hope you get some better sleep tonight.
Ha! Yes,autocorrect.St Party sounds fun though! Thanks,pandas
St party, sounds like a really strict party!
I hope the cold passes quickly!
I get you :) good food and drink are great. I personally don't like beer but give me good wine and I'm happy. Last one of legal drugs, right? Hope you don't get a headache though.
Sounds like you are having a great time!! Good for ypu! How is your friend doing?
Oooh shrimp - lucky you! Great to see you having fun x
So glad to see you are enjoying yourself, Jeff. You deserve to relax & enjoy good things.
Yay! If you come through NC, stop by Comic Girl Coffee ;)
Wish I could, despite! What city in NC?
Whoops, sorry des. My phone auto corrected your name to despite! 😈
We are in Charlotte :)
Charlotte is an awesycity! Great breweries there!
Great to see green x
You deserve this trip! Enjoy!
Nice. What part of the state are you in?
Thanks,all! I'm North of Orlando, Love.
Ah, I've got family there. Hope you enjoy your stay.
Have a great holiday, Jeff, you deserve it!
Safe journey and have a wonderful time! xx
The trip will likely help him during such a difficult time. Wishing you both many blessings- friendship and camaraderie being among them.
What an amazing friend You are Jeff, enjoy <3
Some rest is okay as well. Enjoy your trip dear friend xx
Feel a little like I won't be totally able to relax. But I'm sure it will be fine.
Haven't run in two days. Really stressing me out! More snow and bitter cold, and supposed to do a race tomorrow. Have to run, but it is so much harder in this weather. So tired of it...Ugh.
Heartburn from all the terrible food and beers this past week. And stress, I'm sure. Really feeling crummy. Gotta get through today...
Thank you, Lieteke. Nice of you to say... I'm trying hard. Not really sure what to do or say, but trying just to be a friend.
Thanks, Michelle. Sweet of you to say that. Trying hard, not sure if I'm succeeding. Hard not to go overboard too in worrying.
Thank you all!
Heartburn is no fun! I take Pepcid that helps a lot. Enjoy your vacay!
Wow Jeff, that is really really nice! This solution must be a godsend to your friend. He is not alone now, you don't have to feel guilty you are leaving. Hope it works put, because it is a really nice gesture from your part!
Everyone should have a friend like you!
You are being an incredible friend!
Sorry you are going through all of that.
I really hope your vacation rejuvenates you, Jeff. You really need it! Glad work is at least light for a change.
Still going to Florida. I think it will be ok. Feeling very bad for my friend. Now is when things will get difficult, as things quiet down. I hope he'll be ok.
Very stressed over money, car is having an issue, treadmill is broken. Things feel like they're piling up. And it's so cold and snowy/icy that running outside is so tough. Running stresses me out if I don't do it...feel like I'm falling behind on...
...training. Plus, it helps me feel better. So quite stressed and anxious right now about things.
Hope u can relax and enjoy your trip 😊
Feel you on the running. Hopefully Florida will be nice and warm for a bit of outdoor running :)
Big hugs, Jeff - you're such a great friend. xx
Hope you're okay
Lots of hugs for you!
You're a great friend!
Lots of love & hugs to you, Jeff. You got this!
He has two cats, and I'm allergic, so the lack of sleep and breathing that all night has me feeling terrible. Not to mention all the terrible food we've been eating the last few days.
I'm glad he has his and his wife's family around. Quite a few others coming in today. I'm sure there will be hundreds of people paying respects today. They were both quite popular and involved in the community.
Haven't had the chance to talk to him about my trip yet. I'm pretty sure I'm going to go. Would lose a lot of money if I cancel. But will feel quite bad about it for sure.
You are there for him now, that is what counts
You're a great friend. I'm sure he appreciates everything you're doing.
Thats more than most would do.
Oh, no. Sorry to see this sad news, Jeff. You are amazing for being there for your friend like that. He'll understand about a pre-planned trip though. You've already done so much.
I can imagine you feel bad about it but I don't want to be rude saying this but his wife won't come back regardless if you go on your trip or not. I mean to say; I admire your help for your friend but in this process you deserve some me time as well.
I didn't mean to offend you by saying this I just want to say that you need to take good care of yourself too.
No offense at all, not rude. Thank you all for your thoughts and advice. You're right, Esther. Helpful to hear!
My neighbor and good friend's wife killed herself Thursday. I'm not sure of the details why, but my friend is devastated. They were married over 20 years. His life will never be the same.
Although sometimes I feel not very important to people who are my friends, an afterthought, he has been there for me when I need him. Both of them have been such good friends. I've been so lucky to move next to them.
They invite me to dinners. We have BBQs together and do holiday brunches. I don't have anyone else here, and it's nice to know they are there for me. Even though she was not a people person, she accepted me as family.
When her mother died suddenly, she always said I was another of her mother's sons. I was a part of their family. I feel her loss very deeply, not only because of how it impacts my good friend.
Trying to be there for him now, but his family is here too. He is ok one minute then breaking down in sobs the next. He keeps asking how things can ever be ok again. I don't know...maybe they can't.
I'm supposed to go out of town in just over a week, and that will be after family leaves and he's truly on his own for the first time. I can't cancel my trip and change my life, can I? I don't know what to do with that.
I hate that I keep thinking of ME. It's the human condition, I know. But I keep thinking how this will impact me. What about my trip? Will he move away to be near his family, and thus I'll lose a friend?
My plans for this weekend are over, but mostly I'll sit around so that I'm here waiting until I'm needed. My stomach feels horrible, yet I just want to eat for comfort. I don't deal with grief well either.
I can't imagine why she did it so suddenly and with no note or anything. She hit her head badly a few years ago, and I wonder if her brain was damaged, like professional athletes. SHe had a lot of stress and never dealt with the loss...
...of her mother well. But I know her. She wouldn't leave him like this. It could not have been planned out...it must have been a sudden break, an instant of deepest despair. I feel so bad for her to have gone through this...
But I feel so bad for him. He loved her so much. THey had such a good relationship and were so good together. He was her rock, and she was his emotion. I can't imagine him living in that house full of her things and touches...
I haven't slept much the last few nights. Trying to get a treadmill run this morning and keep my life going on while putting things on hold for him. Feel bad I'll miss the fun beer run thing going on today, but that's ok. That's not important really.
Just hoping that after family leaves and I go to Florida, he will be ok. Should I go? Should I cancel my trip just to be here in case? I don't know what to do. I'd lose a lot of money if I cancel, but what about him? Will he need me?
Sigh... sorry to vent, pandas. THank you for your nice comments and support. I will need it the next few days for the funeral and everything. Please always remember that people love you.
That's heavy. I feel sadness for both of your neighbor's and their friends & family. Your love & support for them shines through... as does your nobility of spirit & beautiful heart. As for going or staying, I'd be torn. If you do decide to go ...
perhaps you can check in daily.
Now my treadmill is broken too. Ugh.
I really hope everything will get better soon! 😪❤️
Had you already planned your trip. Was your friend aware of this. How much do you want to be there for your friend
And how important the other things are that you have to do. Also don't forget yourself
I would go on the trip but keep in touch with him often to make sure he's ok. You have to look after yourself too x
Thank you all for your thoughts and your advice.
Hey Jeff I think it's common sense that you think about how the situation will have an impact for you. I think you've felt let down by friends before so that's not a strange reaction. I would ask your neighbour if he wants you to cancel your trip?
I'm verry sorry for what happend Jeff. I think it's important to think of yourself too. If you're not doing okay, you can't help someone else, so what would be best for you? Also (like Esther said) I'd talk to him about it.. big hug
I'm really sorry for your neighbours Jeff and for you. Maybe the loss of her mother? I don't know. Ito trip, it depends on whether you can enjoy yourself or not, maybe you can phone your friend twice a day to check on him? Love and hugs
I can't even imagine how my friend is going to manage this. I wish I knew how to help him...
I'm so sorry to hear your friend's news, thinking of you both. I'm sure you help your friend just by thinking of him, letting him know you're there. xx
I don't know what to do or say...I feel so worthless right now. I can't imagine how his life will be changed. His wife of 20+ years took her own life, and he is just destroyed. I was so close to them both, and I can't even keep my mind straight...
You might feel worthless but your message is an important one, Jeff. Thank you for expressing yourself, it'll help people.
Wow Jeff thanks for sharing but I can understand this is a living nightmare. I don't think you can do more then just listen to your friend and maybe help him with practical stuff? Show him you care.
This is horrible :( my ex boyfriend killed himself in 2011, and it helped a little bit to have friends to support me. Healing takes time though. A long time. Thank you for sharing.
Sometimes it's too painful to continue living Jeff but thank you
Thank you, and nice to see you again HF. I hope that even those in pain take an opportunity to reach out to someone.
Yes... me too