Hi, Anon! Nice to see you back! ❤️
I'm so happy you've found things that work for you, mandabear!
This is amazing! I'm so happy for the three of you :) You guys deserve it.
Thanks Manda <3
That's exciting! Are you going to do a... what's it called… like a slightly asymmetrical cut, longer in front than at the back? I love those, pity that length looks terrible on me.
Must look good on you!
Alicia, I wore my hair like that for years & got sooo many compliments on it. I'm not ready to go as far as that (shorter in back). Maybe I'll change my mind & get a third haircut within a short period of time. 😂
Thanks, Esther. My Mom says so, too, so it must be true! 🙃
Reading is so good for the soul x
It definitely is, Jos! Thanks for the hugs, Pandas! 💚
It's good for her to be busy and help out since she's around all the time now. Too young to get a job, after all. :) Hope you guys are having fun together too!
Don't be guilty. You can do it together :) I thought it was fun when I was young to help my mum
I get feeling guilty big time. But it can be a good (useful) experience for your daughter. So many young people don't know how to do anything and are not used to it, it makes their relationships even more complicated. There's definitely an upside!
Thanks, Pandas! We all three did a lot of housework today. So much so that my back injury from years ago is acting up. Pulled out the heating pad. Will hopefully go to bed early tonight. I'm pooped! Thanks for the hugs, Pandas. 💚
What did you order? Happy to see you proud of how well you did! You're awesome, manda!
Thanks, Jeff! I got the board game LIFE, Yahtzee, & Uno. Ready to have some family game nights. Mom even wants me to bring Yahtzee & Uno down there next month. Looking forward to it! Thanks for the hugs, Pandas! 💚
Those games are sooo much fun! Wish I could join :)
Happy to see all the green. Yay!
I also want to join the panda game night!
Aw! Panda game night would be awesome! They arrived today so daughter & I are in the middle of LIFE. Lunch break. Feeling irritable though.
Mom guilt tripped me saying that i need to get everyone together. She is starting to worry about getting old. Little brother spent last Friday with us. We have decided we are going to play Classic World of Warcraft. That makes me happy & gives me...
...something to look forward to other than the vacation.
Happy to see you're doing well, Mandabear! Moms are all masters of the guilt trip, I guess...
Wow I hope you have a good time. I need a holiday too.
A lot of good stuff there, Manda - happy for you!! xx
Yay! That's wonderful you're feeling good, I'm so happy :)
Good news. Manda. :) Your doing great
Aw! Thank you so much, my Panda friends. You guys are the best! 💖
Congrats to your daughter on moving up to middle school! Glad you were able to go, even if it was hard. Also, I hope you remember it's not how much you eat, it's what you eat. Quality is more important than quantity!
I don't want you to take this in a bad way but I feel some empathy because somedays I feel fat more now I'm skinny than I did when I was fat. I laugh and joke a lot but this is true. Perception: A distorted window on reality from within our skull.
Work out where you want your mind to go and make plans to get there. Recovery from whatever is unique to us all but we share the need for support, friendship, and compassion.
Sorry for getting 'wordy' I get torn between loving and hating the things I say! Haha. I don't know. Just, I hope you feel better about yourself soon as I do myself!
I feel the same way, John. Sometimes I feel like things were better when I was bigger...easier, maybe. Built-in excuse? I don't know. I notice the extra weight far more now that I'm in shape than I ever used to...it is very frustrating.
Same here, I was much less aware of my body shape before I started with all the dieting and stuff. Those were innocent times. :D Being big also makes one feel stronger, more protected. I think.
Thanks, Pandas. These are really great messages. I'm glad I'm not alone. 💖💖💖
Hope it is going well and you have fun, lovely Manda Panda.
Thank you, Alicia. It ended up being a really good time. Thanks for the hugs, Pandas! 💚
Hope you're having fun.xx
Hope you're having a great weekend, Manda!
Thank you, Pandas! I ended up mowing the yard & weed eated along the road & driveway. Got nice & sweaty & then took a cold shower & washed my hair in the shower which I never do so the color in my hair lasts longer. It felt great!
Good job in therapy! It sounds like you had a breakthrough. That is rare and takes time. You are obviously committed to doing the work.
Thanks, Matt! This is the first time I feel like I can really make progress in therapy. My next appointment is in two weeks. I can't wait to go back. I'll do my own research until then. Thanks for the hugs, Robert & John. 💚
Wow! Would be interested to hear results of your research if you want to share when done xx
Radical acceptance is a great thing, from what I know about it… Well done, Manda!!!
I had been looking into DBT recently too Manda! That's great it's going well! You go, girl! Are you still in school then? I am a bit anxious as a teacher as the school term comes to a finish and I know I will not have a steady routine once it does.
Thank you, Pandas!! 💖💖💖 Everything I read makes so much sense. I told my Mom that it was time to reshape my life & she said, 'that's a plan!' Ooook. KTA- I'm not in school. My BF is a teacher.
I'm going to order a DBT workbook on June 3rd when I get my next check. Really looking forward to it.
What does DBT stand for?
dialectical behavior therapy
It usually lasts for 2 years rather than 2 months like CBT. From what I know it can be a treatment for borderline personality disorder and other things. Focuses a lot on identifying emotions rather than changing how you think.
An old friend of mine who was BPD started it and was really motivated for a while. Sadly drug problems and close family bereavement came at a bad time for her.
'was BPD' that's sloppy, she had received that diagnosis
I got BF to order the workbook for me. I looked at the first couple of pages but really haven't started it yet. Fingers crossed.
Best of luck Manda panda! 😁
Thanks, KTA! ❤️
...looking forward to getting to know her better. Sis had said she barely talks to my brother & his family. Why didn't she make plans with me? I was there for her all this time & I thought she was excited to see me as I was her. It doesn't matter.
BF's mom is taking us out to dinner as a late birthday celebration so I said we couldn't go even though BF had said we could always cancel with his mom if my Sister tried to make plans. I'm HURT & pissed. I don't even want to talk to my Sister now.
I don't know, manda. That would bother me too. Perhaps there's an explanation, such as she got that request and felt she had to go. I hope she can see you soon and you can smooth this over. We are most at risk of being hurt by those we most care abt.
Thanks, Jeff. I didn't want to text my Mom because I was afraid she'd try to intervene, but I was going crazy thinking about it. Mom said to just remember that's the way Sis is. She also said maybe she didn't straight up make the plans, it just...
...came up in conversation. I feel a little better. Thanks for the hugs, Pandas. 💚
So sorry Manda, that you feel let down😔. Jeff makes a valid point maybe it was SIL plans rather than your sister. Maybe ask your sis to catch up with just her & your daughter even just over a coffee see what happens. Hope things work out for you xx
Thanks for the advice, Natalie. I've purposely been avoiding her but maybe that's not the right move. I will message her today. Thanks for the hugs, Pandas. 💚
Hard to fight those negative thoughts, even when your brain tells you it's probably not true. Hope you did ok and was able to get back to baseline when you got home.
Thanks, Jeff. I ate a piece of cake when we got home & then I went straight to bed. Still fighting the thoughts today.
You're doing so well, realizing those thoughts and not acting on them. That takes strength and intelligence. I'm so proud of you!
Maybe don't think of it as fighting those thoughts. Maybe think of it as not feeding those thoughts and letting them grow and build and get stronger. It's ok if you have those thoughts - let them come and let them go. Don't give them strength!
Thanks so much, Jeff & Alicia. It consumed me & I had to say something the following day. He couldn't believe I went to sleep with that & carried it throughout the whole next day. What a waste of brain power! Thanks for the hugs, Pandas. 💚
Wish you a happy birthday for tomorrow. 🎂
Thank you, sweet nixi! 💙 Thanks for the hugs, Pandas. We are sitting here waiting for this damn movie to start. I vaped before we left & am already starving. BF got the times mixed up. 5 more minutes until the lights are dimmed. Sleeepy.
Curious about the Avengers. Have fun!!
Happy birthday, mandabear! I want to go to that movie but have no one to go with and hate seeing movies alone. But no spoilers!
Things went well till the end. BF says he knew something was wrong as we left. Went to dinner after the movie. Didn't eat all of my meal. Grumpier on the way home. Straight to bed & cry, cry, cry. I think it was just too much. Being out of the house.
Aww. Take it easy today. Xx
Happy birthday dear Manda! Take it easy xxx
Thank you, my sweet Panda friends! 💖
Happy Birthday Manda Panda! Trust me, you are still quite young.
Happy Birthday again, my wonderful friend! I'm so happy to have met you :)
Thanks, Brandt & Alicia!
Manda. We love you. Baby steps. Xx
I need to work on mindful eating too. You are not alone
Thank you, nixi & Cora. I've finally said NO MORE CHEESE & CANDY. Can't eat it if there is none there. Fingers crossed I can quickly see a difference. Thanks for the hugs, Pandas. 💚
Thank you, my sweet friends. 💖
It's a good thing to stop I guess. Just be careful with the dropping pounds thing. Take care of yourself. *love ya*
Thanks, Alicia. Love you too. Thanks for the hug, John. I said I was quitting but it'll be slower than going cold turkey. I'm not strong enough to do that.
However you do it. We are with you. X
Thank you, nixi, my love. I am happy to know you guys have my back. 💙
14 years. That's impressive. I'm sure he will appreciate the letter
You look really well in that photo of the two of you. I hope this good mood continues and you can remind yourself of it incase it doesn't.
Congratulations! I'm happy for you.
Congratulations that such an achievement! xx
Aw! Thanks, Pandas! 🤗🤗🤗 You guys are sweet. John specifically, thanks for the comment on my appearance. Of course all I see in that picture is me with a chubby face. At least I'm happy though, right?
Doesn't look chubby to me, but healthy!
I love you, Lydia! ❤️xx❤️
What movies were they? Were they good?
One was called 6 Balloons with a fro
...with a girl from Broad City. It wasn't that good. The other was Nick & Norah's Infinite Playlist. I think that's it. It was cute. Thanks for the hugs, Pandas. 💚
I loved Nick and Nora's! I really want to see Where's Fluffy?! (I have my own imaginary band called A Mighty Humble Bumble. I always wanted to make t-shirts and concert posters for them and pretend they are real...)
Sounds like a sweet band. I'll rock their shirt!