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6 Tasha S
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Might go to the gym this morning before work
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6 Tasha S
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Going to try and get some work done this morning before work at H&B
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I have no work as im going away for a week , but very anxious this morning , hope you have a good day at work x x

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I wish I was at work, But I am too Young

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Tasha S
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Thanks Stephen, Yondie make the most of being young x thanks for the hugs

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6 Tasha S
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Today was pretty productive, I'm proud of myself for getting so much done lately :)
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Good to hear Tasha x x x

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Thanks Stephen x thanks for the hugs everyone x

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I'm proud of you too, Tasha! =)

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7 Tasha S
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Got Breath of the Wild last night and had fun playing it, had a nice relaxing morning in bed so far, going to get up and do something productive before work :)
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I'd like to play that! I'm not a gamer, but Zelda always used to be one of my favorites!

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:) x x x

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It's really great Jeff :D thanks for the hugs all

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6 Tasha S
19 Mar 2017 ·
Don't wanna get up and go work today but it's only a 5 hour shift so I should stop complaining haha
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19 Mar 2017 ·

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7 Tasha S
18 Mar 2017 ·
Alexa is so awesome
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stephen B
18 Mar 2017 ·

well its a positive who ever Alexa is :) x

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Tasha S
19 Mar 2017 ·

It's an Amazon thing not a real person haha :) she's like Siri but she's a speaker as well, it was a housewarming gift :) thanks for the hugs

stephen B
19 Mar 2017 ·

lol ok .. x x

stephen B
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Now you mention it Ive seen it on tv when we were on holiday as we dont even have a TV in this house :) I know revolutionary eh lol x x

Tasha S
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It's really handy, I can set timers and stuff while I'm cooking and turn the lights on and off without getting up which is nice if you're already in bed :) x

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8 Tasha S
18 Mar 2017 ·
Had an amazing night out for st Patrick's and finally got the Internet connected at our flat today :D
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18 Mar 2017 ·

Thanks for the hugs

stephen B
18 Mar 2017 ·

things are going well for you Tasha .. all good x x

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6 Tasha S
11 Mar 2017 ·
Feel better after talking to Ryan about it all last night, we're going to make cookies together today :)
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11 Mar 2017 ·

Aww that's really sweet.

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Tasha S
12 Mar 2017 ·

Thanks everyone

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stephen B
12 Mar 2017 ·

Sorry I didn't see this sooner , great to hear your feeling better after talking x x

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Tasha S
18 Mar 2017 ·

Thank you Stephen x

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18 Mar 2017 ·

:) x

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4 Tasha S
10 Mar 2017 ·
I thought we were doing well but he doesn't seem to think so. He says he doesn't feel we are connecting as much as we used to.
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Jeff M
10 Mar 2017 ·

Ok, so maybe not...things change, but that doesn't have to be bad. Good that he's talking to you about that, which means you can work with him to find new and different/better ways to connect! Would be so much worse if he kept it to himself!

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Claire M
10 Mar 2017 ·

I agree with Jeff. I hope you can work it out. My biggest hugs x

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Cindy M
10 Mar 2017 ·

Wise Jeff...Hope you two can keep talking. x

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11 Mar 2017 ·

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Tasha S
11 Mar 2017 ·

Thank you Jeff, Claire, Cindy, we have talked and I feel better now. He's always been good at communicating x thanks for the hugs x

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Love 1
11 Mar 2017 ·

you're both fortunate to have one another.

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Manda P
11 Mar 2017 ·

Love that he was able to communicate that to you. Signs of a good relationship even if you aren't feeling as close as you usually do. Hope things are back on track. xx

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12 Mar 2017 ·

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12 Mar 2017 ·

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4 Tasha S
08 Mar 2017 ·
Feeling hurt by something Ryan said
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08 Mar 2017 ·

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08 Mar 2017 ·

Can you talk about it with him?

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08 Mar 2017 ·

As Silke says, hope you can talk to him

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09 Mar 2017 ·

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Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

Ryan, when you said x, I felt hurt because I'm needing (consideration? acceptance? connection? validation? identify need). Would you be willing to (actionable request)?

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09 Mar 2017 ·

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stephen B
09 Mar 2017 ·

The problem with words is that can be taken many ways , then add emotions in to it and depending on how your feeling you will see it as either positive , negative etc etc ... so your best not dwelling on it or ask him to elaborate on what he said x

stephen B
09 Mar 2017 ·

I have the same problems with things my partner says , 99% its my emotional state and how I interpret it , if im down I pick up the slightest negative etc ... x

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09 Mar 2017 ·

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Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

Good point, Stephen. Psychologists call it refraction. The energy we communicate from is filtered through the emotion. The emotion, seeking to affirm itself, looks for that which would validate it. So, if I'm angry, I see that which upsets me, etc.

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

In the meditative traditions, awareness of our emotional state is important. We attend to our emotions knowing that if we speak or act out of a calm energy, the results will be better than if afflicted by anger, hopelessness, fear, etc.

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

So, interpretations, evaluations, and perceptions are colored by mood, which influence our thoughts which influence our words and actions. Why we don't learn this in school is one of the tragic flaws of our Western educational system.

stephen B
09 Mar 2017 ·

Totally agree Love 1 , I do mindfullness at the local buddhist centre and practice it with the problems we have just spoke about , it is so valuable in many ways .. I have PTSD so get stuck in flight or fight and mindfullness helps no end ,

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

There are concrete approaches to this specific problem. X says something that upsets me. First step is self-connection. I accept that I'm upset. I attend to the feeling. I can express this more skillfully using the non-violent communication model.

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

When I hear you say, X. I feel (emotion) because I'm needing (need). Would you be willing to (request)? I'm simplifying a technique that is layered & complex. Most people arent in touch with their feelings or needs so can't communicate authentically.

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

Thich Nhat Hanh offers another skillful technique. We begin by showing appreciation, expressing positives. 2. We express regret or apologize for anything we could have done or said differently.

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

3. We ask for more information. We seek to understanding. 4. We express our hurt or disagreement with humility, remaining open, acknowledging our limited perceptions.

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

Another technique was explained by Harville Hendrick. 1. We give our partner our full attention. 2. We listen accurately to what our partner is saying. Mirror what your partner is saying until you get it. 4. Validate

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

5. Communicate empathy. Again, sounds simple, but it needs to be broken down. Most people do not know how to be empathetic. They confuse it with fixing, sympathy, consoling, advising, data-gathering, etc.

Love 1
09 Mar 2017 ·

This stuff is hard. If Ryan is like most of us guys he may struggle communicating in a way a woman can understand and vice versa. I need explicit instructions: Empathy for Dummies.

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stephen B
10 Mar 2017 ·

Morning Tasha hope you have managed to talk things through with Ryan and are feeling better about it all x x

Tasha S
10 Mar 2017 ·

Thank you everyone, I have spoken to Ryan, he's not in the best place at the moment mentally. I've read through all your comments and they're helpful, thank you all so much x

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10 Mar 2017 ·

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