Maybe you don't need someone for the wedding. You can enjoy yourself without that person. Perhaps your putting undue pressure on yourself. Maybe you'll even meet someone at the wedding!
It's not the wedding itself. It's more like that's the reminder of my single status that hasn't changed in 9+ years.
Yeah, I can relate to that.
Hey, Aiden. Glad to see you back but sorry it is under these circumstances. I wish I had better words to say except not to give up. That person is out there.
@Manda P I didn't really know what else to do. And I think I found someone just by chance. I've kept pretty quiet about it too my family because I want things to work out and I don't want to jinx it. My family isn't the most supportive at times.
You don't need your family's support, do you? As long as you're happy is what matters.
No I don't need their support or involvement. I'm an adult and it's none of their business until I say it is.
Have you met their family?
No. It's gonna be awhile before that happens
Well, good luck. I really hope everything works out for you.
Wondering if theres an online , supportive dating site you can join. BTW, I admire your willingness to suffer for love.
I looked into that. Too difficult to navigate since I don't have a proper PC at the moment. If it doesn't have an Android app, it may as well not exist.
Plus a lot of sites are full of people that have unhealthy obsessions and fetishes and stuff concerning people like me and I'm not into that.
Same situation here. I'm a trans guy and I have a crush on a friend's friend who is a straight cis woman. I feel hopeless and trapped. Glad to see another trans guy on MP. We should exchange some experiences with each other.
I've never encountered another trans guy on MP either. I tried the whole online dating thing but my profile read more like a disclaimer and it was so defensive I'm sure it had to be a turnoff.
Because things don't stay as bad as they are now forever. As difficult as things are at the moment, they pass and things work out. It's worth hanging on/in there for the better times ahead. The good times do come back. Just hang in there buddy.
Things have been bad for far too long and I've just gotten sick and tired of hiding how I really feel. Admitting myself to a psych ward would be a horrible idea since I'm transgender with a seizure disorder so I can't even reach out for proper help.
These are 2 difficult things. I have a few questions: seizures, do you get medication for that? Is
Sorry, touched enter by mistake. Is there a reason which trickers the seizure, or are they unprovoked? It must ne really tough not knowing when to expect them. Must make you very insecure.
Transgender. That is very hard. I don't know in which country you are living, only a few countries will socially accept it. Do your family know, are you in transition already, is there someone to talk to about it? It must be very tough and I
And I understand your post. But it might get better. Really hope you have someone to talk to. Remember we are here for you
I understand that it's difficult, but there are some things we can't fix on our own, and the only way to get a helping hand.... is to reach out to someone who can. It might be just the start of mending things for you.
I would like to think that you have the strength and courage to get through this by yourself, but sometimes we need a helping hand, even if it's just to get started on the right track. No-one should have to suffer or go through difficult times alone.
I go drinking so I give the same shy their
*the same sht they give about me being lonely. They can't help it anyway.
Can't drink with my anti-seizure meds unless I want to end up 6ft under in a real hurry plus no driving with seizures anyway to even get anywhere let alone a bar.
Given up on meds and resumed my drinking. Feel rather better. It's up to you anyways. Once you'll have realised meds no longer help you know an option :þ
The people that take you for granted don't seem to be able to have much empathy and condolences.
difficult condition to manage. Sounds like theyre severe & strike w/o warning.
Crying is good. Crying releases emotions. I don't know you but I know you have worth. You don't have to 'prove it' or 'be good enough'. You can just be. Hang tight.
You can do it!
And I have no clue what to sing. I look young so I guess I should pick something bearing that in mind. I have one of those voices that can sound like just about anyone else's. It's weird.
Sing what makes you happy inside. If you do that, you might somehow be able to push away your fears & get lost in the music. Sing what feels right for you. Start with something simple & then build on what you can. Baby steps. You got this! 🙂
This is the part where being a perfectionist absolutely sucks.
Ah, yeah that's a pretty difficult one to get around isn't it? Still, are you going to give it a go?
I really want to, Mandy M. It's hard to open myself up like that I guess.
Shame as you said you're really good, and am inclined to believe you 🙂 You gots to do what you feel is right
I agee aiden
Not everyone is okay getting stuck in their single status. I may not have my *** together but does that mean I'd be a horrible boyfriend? I just don't understand the world I guess.
I'm sure you'll find someone amazing... sometimes it just takes time..
10 years of searching feels like an eternity. Seems like the bottom line is no one wants a trans-guy. As if that's all I am as a person.
Keep your chin up Aiden. I am pritty sure that its not something solely isolated to the transgender community. I believe its because we have become a society which now thinks love and relationships are disposable, and so you dont have to commit anymo
I open up to people and suddenly they just exit my life. I used to think it was a coincidence. I'm just not sure anymore.
Wendy is right. I doubt it has nothing to do with being transgender. There is someone out there for everybody. My sister is 34 & still searching. She is struggling like you but I have hope for the both of you!
Well I myself have no problem being with a trans man as I have done so before and I am genderqueer myself.. the right person isn't going to push you away just because of that... just don't give up on yourself. .
Hang in there, Aiden.
Hang tight, Aiden. You'll get this worked out!
Ah, I see you're not doing well. It's the therapist's job to know when that is & to help you fix it.
If anyone should be able to see when you're struggling and need help, it's your therapist. Good that the person can tell and try to help!
Aiden, where ya been? I see you on FB every now & then, but miss you on here. Hope you are well!
I've just had a lot going on. Really a lot.
Hope you're ok.
I gained a lot of weight when i was on mirtazapine regularly, had big appetite and swelling all over my body.
I was put on it so that I could gain weight. Worked well for that, plateaued at 135 & have stayed there. That's Healthy weight for me , no swelling but the triglycerides rise, that I gotta do something about.
Ugh. I hate the medicine game. Hope things get worked out for you soon!
I guess she looked at pictures & came realize that if I ended up really scarred, she couldn't handle that. She's been in chronic pain so I can't tell her pushing me away is due to pain or the idea of my future scarred chest .
If previous run of the mill scars I've acquired over the years is anything to go by, I'll have nothing but a tiny white line. We tend to scar the same way all over.
Be patient with her. Maybe it's just taking her a long time to adjust to things. Scars are no big deal in the grand scheme of things.
Stayed up long enough to see the Cubs win the World Series. I'm proud of my home team but can barely keep my eyes open anymore. Need sleep badly.
I wouldn't have been able to stay up long enough to see them win! I'm like a toddler when it comes to sleep. =) Hope you got some rest.
I did eventually. Passed out in bed & slept hard.
Adults world sucks :P
Congrats to hear! Here's wishing you only good things going forward :)
That's great! I hope it works out for you!
I just hope I don't mess it up. Years of rejection and getting friend-zoned often make me come on too strong and get attached too early on.
Learn from those lessons & take it slow. Maybe she is the one meant for you. All those bad experiences have to be balanced out with good.
I just got home from meeting her for the first time at her place. Walked home in a thunderstorm and am soaked to the bone! Totally worth it!
That makes me smile! Glad you have found some happiness!
Yay!! Glad to hear you're doing good! :D
Why being honest will be bad for you?
Because of admitting ***al ideation mostly.
I don't want to end up in a psychiatric ward because of something he did. I don't know the laws well in Illinois. I'm a difficult patient to place in such a situation. Many hospitals don't have protections for trans people in their psych wards.
I didn't tell him I came close to swallowing all the pills I'm prescribed though. I have a lot of tough decisions ahead.
I can't give advice here, Aiden. I'm not completely honest with my mental health team. It's scary because you don't know the outcome. You gotta trust that they've got your best interest in mind.
@Manda P, that's just it. He's cramming a misdiagnosis down my throat & I know he doesn't have my best interest in mind.
Because i have sensory processing disorder, I'm not a neurotypical patient. That diagnosis should be reflected in my psychiatry record but it isn't. I even turned over a mess of medical records from my childhood diagnosis & still no acknowledgement
I'm sorry, Aiden. I wish I had some advice for you. How old are you? Have you talked to your parents about it?
You all probably think I'm around 18. I'm 36 and yeah I've been honest with my Mom at least. She hasn't been very helpful.
I'm sorry! You look so young in your picture! I guess I shouldn't be quick to assume. I used to look much younger than my age for a long time. I'm 35 & think it's finally catching up to me. Now, my voice...I sound like a 5 year old! Also sorry...
...that your mom hasn't been helpful? Do you have any supportive friends at least?
@Manda P, it's alright. According to my looks, I've been 18 for the last 18 years. I've got some supportive friends but none nearby for hugs in the flesh really.
I have a lot of teenage angst and my reactions are far more adolescent-like on account of still being in hormonal transition(I'm still in testosterone induced second puberty)
@Manda P & Clint B, a lot of times I wish I could talk one on one with you. You're quickly becoming big parts of my support system.
That must be so frustrating to be stuck at 18. I can't imagine how confusing it much be. If you are on FB, I can give you my link. I'd be more than happy to be friends with you.
@Manda P, yeah I'm on FB. You just made me smile btw.
www.facebook.com/amanda.renee.burdette ...feel free to send me a request & message anytime!