anxiety, and guilt will go on
Throw anyone that hurts you out of your life. They aren't worth it.
I don't think boring people post on here.
The exact same thing happen to me. My family left me in my room to rott. I had to get myself out the hole. It was hard and lonely. I totally understand
You'll thrive. Just hang in there. Trust me I know it's easier said than done. But you're strong and you can do this.
Tell me abiutbyour feelings Nina
Here I am again :( rejected and despised
Or around my waist. Am I a terrible daughter? I don't know what to do
And I can't say these things to him, I don't want to hurt his feelings if he doesn't mean it. But I'm really afraid. He doesn't do that to my mother
If he makes you uncomfortable, you should talk to someone. Maybe you can tell him that you're uncomfortable? Or do you have another family member you could talk to? That sounds very difficult! :(
If you have boundaries you don't want to cross, you must tell people around you. If you
If they care about you, they'll stop.
I don't know :( I said before that I don't want to be touched (like as a joke) but he still keeps on doing it. It's really complicated. I don't know how he would take it if I tell him I'm not comfortable. he's getting old and he has a lot of
problems too. I'm sorry but can I ask you Jeff, if you're my father, how would you feel? Would you feel bad?
I think if he knew he was doing something wrong - touching you inappropriately, or even just touching you when you don't like it - he would feel bad for the right reason. He should feel bad if he is doing something wrong, and if he cares...
...about you, he would stop. If he is doing it innocently, he might feel bad for making you feel bad or for not being able to express his love for you. But regardless, he should definitely honor your intentions...Never let your concerns for...
...how someone else feels impact how YOU feel.
And is it normal for a father to do that? Sometimes when he puts his arms on my waist his hands go down a little below the belt.
Hi Lex, I'm sorry I don't think I can. It's a dilemma for me. I get the feeling that it will sound rude and everything will not be the same anymore
I also don't want to tell this to my family. They might hate him and he would feel sad. I don't want him to die sad
Thank you, Jeff. I wish he'd think the same as you do and I hope it's not the last thing he'd remember.. that his daughter is afraid of him and thinks he'd rape her. sometimes i feel guilty the thought of him in the coffin appears in my mind. :( am I
making sense? or do i just sound like an awful daughter? shouldn't it be abnormal to feel this way to my father?
Don't worry about what's normal or sounds rude. You need to tell someone else, like another family member? An uncle or aunt or something? Don't deal with this alone...
Well, you don't sound awful. I would want to know if I'm making my daughter feel bad, even when it hurts. But I know things look always simpler from agar.
Thank you so much Jeff and Lex. What I think I can only do is to avoid, and confess to my family when he's gone.. but I guess I really need to be more brave
I'm so afraid to commit mistakes and look stupid again. Why do I have to be so awkward and clumsy and inattentive and stupid? I wish I can pick up things quikly and do them right
I feel ashamed of myself for being like this. I want to work and deal with people but dealing with people makes me tired. So tired that I couldn't smile anymore even if it's just an hour around them. I'm getting worse.
If I can give any advice on here it would be to read a book called the power of now by Eckhart Tolle.. it turned my life around
Thank you, Shaun B. I found a pdf of it online. Will read it.