I know what you mean.
Like your attitude!!
How did you find out? Did he say he didn't tell her? Or weren't you mentioned in this conversation? You might have been mentioned before, or? I understand completely you think they worse straightaway, but have you talked about it?
I have been there before and I know what it feels like. it turned out to be absolutely innocent. The woman and I even became friends. Really hope that this is the case for you as well. 💜
I went out Saturday night and he was on WhatsApp all evening and a lot of yesterday. He is recovering from a hip operation so he went up to bed and I was to bring up everything he needed. I feel guilty as I looked at his phone.
I found him talking to her via the app on Wednesday, we discussed it and I said I didn't think it was right. Now it seems they have exchanged numbers and talking on WhatsApp
Don't forget, he must be bored stiff, laying there. My experience is that whenever you read mail, texts, letters which are not meant for you, you get the context wrong. It might be just a way to spend the time.
The gender might not have been the issue here, it is someone he clicked with and likes to talk to at this point in time. As long as they don't send flirting texts, or too many pictures. Try to relax about it.
Has he done it before and don't you trust him? Or are you insecure about the relationship or yourself? Also that is understandable, been there as well. 💜
Perhaps you should ask that he express to her that he is with you. . . To be honest, if it was me, I would ask him to stop completely. I feel it's inappropriate for someone to be in such close context with someone like that. Especially as they met as
strangers. . . If they had been friends prior to your rekationship, fair enough but out of the blue developing a relationship where he's texting someone all day is not really normal. I wouldn't say it's the sign of a platonic relationship!
Is he messaging her a lot throughout the day? If it's onky a message or two throughout the day that could be harmless but otherwise I'd put my foot down. I don't like the way he continued to message her after yiu asked him to stop either. Did he try
to hide it??
Yes he has done it before, one ended up very flirty and met one another, in a pub a few times. I only found out by accident. The last one was a month ago a work client that I saw an email saying “ thanks baby” xxxxxxx
We had a big row about this and he said she was poorly blah blah and he was just being a friend ... now this one! ... he said it Wednesday I'm just bored it's general chit chat about my hip op and showed me the messages.
She has put you need a nurse maid 😉 he said I sure do!
When I question him about it he says for gods sake it's not a dating site so there is nothing wrong in it! ... now he's added her on WhatsApp and the first contact was a picture of her saying this was taken two weeks ago.... I think he replied, nice😃
There was about 20 messages on there from sat night and Sunday day time .... I can see from my phone when he goes on WhatsApp and it's not something we really use as got fb messenger and texts on phone
Thank you for talking to me about this, I needed a stranger to talk to with an unbiased view x
Ok, I now completely understand the situation. Try to have a very serious talk and tell him how ot makes you feel. Try not to be angry and accuse him of things, as then it will turn i to a fight and you don't want that, do you. If he doesn't consider
Feelings,, or you don't feel comfortable, it might be time to take a serious look at your relationship and where you want it to go. It is not nice to be insecure in your relationship, I know! 💜
I'm completely out of energy for this. I have t tried talking to him today but he knows something is wrong, he won't ask as he knows what he's doing and doesn't want to talk about it! .... because he's recuperating from his op he gets angry
If I say anything and says I should be here to support and help him not stress him out. He knows how I feel and how insecure it makes me feel but sees no wrong in what he's doing!
All night it has been that this relationship has come to an end in my mind. It's having the courage to end it and it won't be till he's better and able to drive again. He lives in my house so it would be him leaving but he doesn't have anywhere to go
The thing is I like our life it's just all this messaging women and I feel very sad at it being the end and tipping my life upside down again 😬
Oh, I know how you feel.. but sometimes it is better to go through an acute pain than to let it linger for a long time. When is he recovered? That he has nowhere to go is not a reason to keep the relationship going. He might have to stay a little
Then planned, as you probsbly shouldn't to kick him into the street, but he should also make arrangements. Hope it goes smoothly. How bad is the operation? Did he get a new hip?
We had a convo after I calmly told him I will look after him until he's better but the relationship is over! Cut a long story short I read all the messages to/from them both and explained I know there is nothing much in it but I want him to
Understand how it looks n makes me feel ... ended up both crying n hugging. All I want is transparency so I can trust him... thank you for today
Very happy it turned out this way!! Well done!