They sound like rather sad people, hope you feel better soon
This is a tricky one Julie and hard to resolve. Can you make the personal adjustments that are being asked of you without resentment? For me resenting people is my downfall into dispair.
I'm told it's my conduct but I think it's more my line manager twisting what I say to the manager and so I believe she dislikes me, whether she does or not I don't know. I think if I'm to stay I need a sit down with the manager and get my side across
Brave stuff Julie. Hope it helps you both.
It can be hard in a new job especially if you have been out of work a while. Give it time. Maybe you both need to find a common ground. Check your your bosses Facebook page if he has one for starters.