Say what you just wrote if you have to. Just be honest. If she doesn't want you for being you move on. Annoying partly depends on what's happening in her head not yours. Good luck
I have to agree with John, being honest and open is the best strategy. Meaning that it won't always work, but it'll work in a way that's worth it.
Forgot one thing: all people love talking about themselves. Just ask her about something.
I've held back from so much as trying to talk to this girl due to not being able to let go of my now permanent ex.....that's not an issue anymore.
Good luck man !