Congratulations 🎊 53 is a nice age, enjoy your life!
Birthdays are not that exciting anymore, still, there is something special about them :)
lots of positives on your list: connection with D, cat, time off, books, films. Happy birthday.
understandably, in a dark room but eating, drinking etc so we know he's okay. Having D stay with me for a few days has been wonderful and made a big difference to my mood, but we're not yet in a position to live together, so having the cat will make
a big difference in my daily life. Still mourning L, but these times are so weird that I felt ready to have another cat. For me it's important to have someone to care for, to help me find a reason to get up every morning.
Lucky cat. :)
a sweet addition.Happy for you.
Great,cats... our love forever)fuzzy joy.
a cat can be such a good companion. Wish you and your new friend a lot of luck
How is your new addition doing. I hope you are seeing more than a pair of eyes 👀 now
Upload some pics
hope you get a few moments of respite and distance from the thoughts and emotions weighing you down.
and need to make. Need patience and it's in short supply. Nothing seems to work out for me right now
I can empathize with much of this. May we all grow in patience.
I know how that feels. It makes the days so much longer and more difficult. I hope things improve for you!
relieved I had the afternoon off because it was like a punch in the stomach. I think it was the carrier, actually, almost more than her ashes - having to carry that empty box back to my flat was heartbreaking. Cried and couldn't stop, just went to
bed for a few hours. Got to get up early tomorrow to catch a bus to spend weekend with D, so had to force myself to get up to get things in order for that and eat a proper meal.
I just don't feel like getting up most days.
Thank you for your kindness to people. Good luck.good mood ,my friend❤
Hope you feel better soon too Albertine ❤️
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can't even imagine how hard it'd be. Your kitty was lucky to have you.
So sorry about the loss of your friend!
Hopefully a weekend away to Ds helped. Xx
when I learned of the grieving process, found it comforting. I could accept my grief, recognize the stages, and be compassionate with myself, giving the heart the space to mourn and grieve the love that has returned to Mystery.
wishing you the space to grieve, to hold the sadness in a compassionate embrace.
lacking motivation or just going to lie down. Feeling tearful but not actually crying, which is okay right now. Have cried a lot recently.
Take extra special care of yourself. We're here for you! xx
Grief has no rhyme or reason, Albertine, but you will feel better eventually
Look after yourself, don't rush the grieving process. Good times are ahead
❤️ Big hugs, Albertine!
Thinking of you. X
BIG GIANT FURRY HUGS MY DEAR FRIEND. ❤ ❤ ❤
Thanks dear Pandas - hugs back, glad you're here with me
Lots of love and good vibes to you, Albertine ❤️
Thanks Jen :) love
Anna, Penelope, Manda, Hazel - big hugs
Jeff! Hugs x
May your tears be water for the soul's flowering.
Thanks Love:) and Jason - hugs
You didn't need them for a while. You are brave and strong enough to know when you could do with support, and when you can do without. Big hugs
Thank you both - hugs back
Sending lots of comforting hugs! xx
Thans for the hugs dear Pandas
including one last scratch:). You were a beauty and a character, Leandra.
So sad 😔
Thank you John and Tasha - hugs. It's a reminder to cherish our pets - cats, birds, dogs etc - while they're with us.
our pets bring us so much joy and many treasured moments. You loved her so much. It was a hard, but compassionate call.
Thanks, Love - yes, they bring an unqualified joy that one doesn't get from much else in life.
So sorry to see this. It must be so hard to lose a pet. I've managed to avoid it. Dreading the days that will eventually come. I'm sure you gave her the best life.
Thanks, Manda - yes, have to keep remembering how much she enjoyed life. You do a wonderful job with yours too :)
Oh no😭. I'm so sorry.
Thanks Ann and nixi - I know there are a lot of cat lovers/owners on here, nixi, including you.x
I'm so sorry. Thinking of you. We lost our beautiful Calico girl of 20 years, last year and it remains painful even though She lived for a relatively long time.
a trip to the vet tomorrow.
Hope things go well at the vets and the stress eases up soon
I hope your kitty is ok. It's so hard when they are sick!
Yeah, that's a lot to manage. The stress is understandable and, I hope, manageable & temporary
A little TLC. Happy for you.
I'm sure you are gorgeous my friend ❤
talk or message every day, but somehow it feels different, sad. Had to ask for help to get a few things from the shop - don't like having to do that...
I wish you well my dear friend ❤
Hope you are feeling better real soon xx
Hope you feel better soon. I'm sure it's scary to be sick now.
Hope you feel much better soon. And don't feel bad for asking for help. I think we are all going to need someone's help to survive this
Hey Al, how are you feeling my friend? I was thinking about you my friend ❤
Hey A. How are you feeling now? Xx
Hope you're feeling better now ❤️
falling in love - could never have imagined that a year later the country would be going into lockdown and, best case scenario, it will be 3 weeks before I can see him again. At least he drove down to spend this weekend with me - when we said goodbye
this morning we knew there might be new measures, a lockdown, but hoped against hope...Have to remember how lucky I am to have found him, we have a lot of time ahead of us, difficult as this is right now
3 weeks is not that much. I might face a year of waiting for the first meeting in person. You'll be ok *hug*
So lovely, thanks for sharing this. You will be back together and stronger for the break I'm sure. I'm kinda in the same boat and keeping our distance for now. Big hugs.
Thanks panda pals xxx
Alicia - yes, 3 weeks isn't long but I expect the lockdown here in the UK will go on longer than that - suppose that's the underlying worry. There are bigger problems, I know! Just feeling sad now
So happy for you, Albertine! xx
Hey Albertine. 👋👋.It is wonderful to hear that things are going well for you and D, and I hope for you personally. The 1st week that USA refused to let Brits in I was miserable and grumpy with him.
But now I think we have to be grateful for the time we have had, and to know that we will see them again. We will get through this, I also believe it will stop us taking each other for granted. Not just our partners, our friends + family and wider co
Thanks corrado, Jeff and Manda - stay well and safe
Thanks nixi - yes, agree about gratitude, something I think I'm not good at. Saw your post saying you're practicing it, well done. Hope the long distance thing with the American goes well
Happy birthday!!! 🎂
Happy birthday 🎂. I'm glad you have great company for your special day. X
Happy birthday! I'm so happy you're so happy today!
Happy birthday for yesterday it was my brother's birthday too
Super duper Happy Birthday my dear friend! I hope you had the best birthday ever. You deserve it ❤
Aw! It's your birthday as well. Happy Birthday!!! Glad it was great!
Happy Belated Birthday!
Happy Belated Birthday! I hope you had a lovely day 🥳🎁🎂 xx
Best wishes, 52 springs young🎈
:) Thanks David, I need to hear that today! :)
a non flexible ticket!! And it's pouring and I've been up since 3 to pack, sort flat, catch early train...so I'll probably cheer up once I get over having to spend extra money I can't afford...
Things have generally been going great with us - the inevitable tough moments, but lots of love and goofiness. Lucky
Sooo happy for you! Have a wonderful time!
am reduced to nothing so easily.
I know what you mean. Happiness is momentary, but love is resilient, I hope it all gets better sooooon.
Oh poor Albertine. Hope you are ok. X
But 9 is for him and his effect on my life, work is awful and many other aspects not great. But
Love, eh? Amazing. How long I have waited for him
Glad the cat approved :)
Also.it is so nice to see you happy
it's going to mean in practical terms, how it will work out in terms of where we live etc. (Right now we're in different cities etc) But we have time. I have never been so happy, so sure that this is right. And I'll be 52 in a couple
...in a few months, Pandas - it can happen! So excited and so happy. I am very lucky.
Writing this at 4 am - can't sleep but in a good way, and I want to share with you guys who have always been there for me.
Very happy for you, congratulation!
This is wonderful to hear. I'm delighted for you
Dear Pandas, thank you all for the hugs. Big hugs back xx
Metron - thanks!
Ian - thanks! I haven't had much time to respond to posts but hope you're feeling a bit better soon, sorry to see you feeling low. .hope you managed to enjoy your leave.
nixi - I thought of you when this happened. :) We are lucky! everything is crossed that things keep going so well for you and the American.
I'm so happy for you!! Gives me hope, I guess. :)
So happy for you <3
This is wonderful! It sounds like a great thing to promise to do for each other. I'm so happy for you! And indeed for myself, for all of us, because this can happen anytime :)
Congrats, Albertine! How lovely!!! :D
she wants me to see how it goes and call her on Tuesday if I think I need more time. Sometimes feeling quite anxious about work, sometimes accepting that I just have to be off.
Things with D still going really well - he's been offshore nearly 2 weeks, another week and a bit to go before he comes home. Went up to see him in Aberdeen for his last weekend, just as I was getting ill, and he looked after me so kindly and well.
Never had anyone who shows such kindness toward me, so supportive. Pretty much in love, though I know he doesn't feel that way - we've had a couple of 'relationship' talks, and I know he is keen not to overpromise or get carried away, it's his first
relationship since his marriage broke up, 3 - 4 years ago, so we are in somewhat different places at the moment but heading in the same direction, wanting the same outcome (he says:) - different speeds:) )
Genuinely hope so, as I really can imagine spending the rest of my life with him, though I don't quite know what that would look like, given how much I like living alone, having my own space. But it might be just living much nearer, I'm in Edinburgh,
he's in Aberdeen, which requires a certain amount of traveling. Anyway, that discussion is a long way off, if it ever happens! Right now keep reminding myself to enjoy the moment and my luck :)
hard 2 b sick n away from sum1 who makes u feel good i empathize with u
Welcome back great news about your fella. Do you get full sick pay?
I hope that you feel better from the virus soon!! Thank you for sharing such happy thoughts about D and your hopes :) I wish you the best!
Ugh, I'm so sorry you've been ill for so long! But I am still really, really happy that things are going so well with your relationship right now. That is amazing!
Wow sounds like you've been really ill. Good to hear from you! Sounds like you're in a good vibe when it comes to D. So happy for you!!
Yikes! That's a long time to be sick. Glad you've seen a doctor. Hope things continue to go smoothly with D. Being on the same page & not necessarily on the same timeline isn't so bad.
Glad to have you back, Albertine! It's amazing how open-minded you are about this reationship, that you are not in a hurry to conform, that you're thinking about living closer to each other rather than together. We are free to make our own rules, and
if it's the right person they'll work with us, right? Huge bear hugs