Back here after ages. Miss the community, and feeling like someone actually gives a ***. Hope everyone else is better than I am
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Hopefully I'm not coming across as horrible or anything. I'm genuinely confused and upset, because she KNOWS that I have OCD...
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I honestly don't get it. I've always been very kind to her. How are people like this? :/ if I knew that someone had a problem that literally caused so much anxiety I wouldn't take advantage of that...
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It does. I mean, I'd like to believe it was an accident, but I'm pretty sure she did it because I told her to turn off the lights in the other rooms when she was in my room. Politely. What the ***
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The maid put all this dirty stuff on my bed and now I have to wash, dry, put on and then iron new sheets coz OCD. She literally smiled afterwards. I do everything myself so this doesn't happen and yet
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Oh yeah. Come inside the restaurant, sit down to order, and then make a ***ing scene. Truly amazing. Couldn't have done it in the car or outside or while waiting. I ***ing love my family.

Hopefully this is something that feels bad for today but in a week's time will be insignificant. Focus on the week's time when you need to, if that gets too much return to the here and now. Strategic thinking!

09 Sep 2018

Thanks John. It did resolve itself, thankfully. Thanks for the hugs, Pandas. Xx

11 Sep 2018
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The last couple of days have been absolutely horrible because of things happening to loved ones but spending a lot more time with a friend who needs me and that's very welcome right now

So sorry to hear that, Kara, but great that you can help your friend and yourself.

01 Sep 2018

Helping one another is a sure path to love and joy and connection.

01 Sep 2018

Hugs to all of you.

09 Sep 2018
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You know how you're already depressed, and then *** happens and suddenly everything just falls apart? That's happening and I have no idea what to do.

Yes, I can relate to that experience. Psychologists call it refraction. While we're processing an emotion, something happens that pricks & heightens it. The emotion lingers, coloring how we interpret events.

31 Aug 2018

Understanding how the brain processes and creates experience doesn't take the distress away. But it can be comforting to know that our experience is normal. When we are absorbed by an emotion, the advice is to acknowledge it rather than

31 Aug 2018

react to situations that only further provoke the emotion. Applying the balm of self-compassion and stepping back to indulge in a little self-care might be helpful here. Whether it's accepting that you're having a tough time and giving self-empathy

31 Aug 2018

or going for a walk, hitting the gym to exercise, reading an uplifting book, watching a comedy, calling a friend, taking a hot bath, deep breathing or meditation, we can het out of the loop. What we experience as emotions have a neurochemical base.

31 Aug 2018

Meditation, exercise, nurturing social connections, practicing gratitude, engaging in acts of kindness w/intention, savoring moments etc. change the structure and chemistry of the brain.

31 Aug 2018

If Im angry, for example, body chemistry may be flooded with cortisol and adrenaline. I recognize I am angry. Heart rate is accelerated, mind is agitated, tingling in arms, etc. I accept that I am angry and begin to triage: deep breaths...

31 Aug 2018

identifying needs (respect? fairness? connection? appreciation? etc), exercise, distraction, a hobby. I give the body time to dial down the anger, to absorb the adrenaline & cortisol. These chemicals may remain in system for a few minutes or hours.

31 Aug 2018

Thank you for the hugs guys, and thank you Love for reminding me that all of this has a basis. I'm studying Psychology at uni and the neuroanatomy classes really make you think. Thanks guys xx

01 Sep 2018

Ahh, good stuff. Please pass along any gems. I love this stuff.

01 Sep 2018
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Went out with my parents yesterday to please them, and it has left me completely exhausted. I need to get my *** together.
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Hi pandas. I've been gone for a while but now I'm back and looking forward to talking to everyone again! Much love, Kara xx

Welcome back to the panda preserve.

24 Aug 2018

Thanks, Love! <3

24 Aug 2018

So good to see a post! Welcome back

24 Aug 2018

Thanks, Cindy! Xx

24 Aug 2018

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25 Aug 2018

Thanks, everyone. Xx

25 Aug 2018
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Just when I got through a super stressful week and came out okay, I break down and start crying for no reason. Every time I think I'm okay, this happens. I don't know what to do.
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Got through Monday but missed all my classes on Tuesday. Bad bout of depression when I woke up but I feel better and I'm going to give myself a break and try to do better tomorrow.

I had a very hard time with that in school too. You can do it!

28 Feb 2018

Good advice from your Inner Guide: 'Im going to.give myself a break.' Self-compassion. Beautiful & necessary gift from Self to self.

28 Feb 2018

Thank you, everyone. <3

08 Mar 2018
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Don't feel very well but getting stuff done. Forcing myself to work and making progress. Hope I can keep it up!
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Kind of really want to die. So much stress with the upcoming exams and assignments and presentations. But it's not just that. I feel this pit in my stomach and I'm having heart palpitations and I can'

I can't breathe properly and I'm on the verge of a panic attack. The only person who helps is my boyfriend and he's not here he's resting because he's ill. Ldrs suck. I have no idea what to do.

23 Feb 2018

Thank you, Jack!

23 Feb 2018

No problem, I hope your boyfriend gets well soon :)

23 Feb 2018

What is the worst thing that can happen if you don't pass your exams? Can you retake them? What about the assignments, can you hand the in later? Can you talk to someone at your school/uni? You can only do your best, that is all anyone can ask for! ❤️

24 Feb 2018

The only person who can truly help you is you, not another. You have strong interoceptive awareness. You were able to identify the irregular, shallow breathing, the heart palpitations, the visceral discomfort. Good body awareness.

24 Feb 2018

You can undo w/5-10m of deep diaphragmatic breathing. This will activate parasympathetic response, slow heartrate & breathing, calm the mind, relieve you of symptoms. You can reorient your attention. But only YOU can do the work.

24 Feb 2018

Your mind is causing mischief. Trust your body to bring you back to rest. Stay w/sensations, let go of story lines and keep letting go. Trust your own Inner Wisdom, no one elses- not even this. It'll guide you to true safety, peace & rest.

24 Feb 2018

That must be tough for you. I'm sure you will survive though. You're a strongy woman

24 Feb 2018

Lieteke, I guess I'm mostly just stressing out because I'm already behind on my courses. I messed up a lot in my first year and had to withdraw from a bunch or courses so I need to pass all my classes and go to summer school to graduate on time(cont)

24 Feb 2018

(cont) I guess I also don't want to disappoint my parents they work hard to pay for my education and I feel like I've troubled them enough with my OCD and depression. Can't get extensions unless you have a medical report and they don't give those out

24 Feb 2018

Honestly they've given me a lot of trouble even when it comes to stuff about my mental health. People are so clueless, honestly.

24 Feb 2018

Love, I've been trying breathing excersises and while they help, they don't eliminate the anxiety. I got a hold of myself though, I forced myself to get up and cook and be busy and it left me eventually (lol 2 hours). But thank you so much!

24 Feb 2018

Thanks Jack and Esther <3 and hugs back to everyone

24 Feb 2018

Correct. Doesnt eliminate anxiety, but mitigates symptoms & can help avert panic attacks. For anxiety, there R other strategies. Forcing yourself to reorient your attention is one. Even tho it took time, knowing you have a strategy is empowering

25 Feb 2018

That must be a tough position your are in. But having panick attacks isn't going to help. Try to make a doable schedule, twke one step at the time. Go to 5e nicest professors and

25 Feb 2018

Ask for extra time. I am sure you can do it!

25 Feb 2018

And if you are in the need to complain, moan and shout, we are here. Also try to explain the situation to your parents, they might surprise you ❤️

25 Feb 2018

Hey Kiara, my psych when i am at the height of my anxiety, tells me to focus on something else that will disract the mind. Such as reading a good book, going for a walk/ run, spending time with a pet (if you have that option)

26 Feb 2018

Continued.. She even suggested putting your face in a bowl of cold water as it shocks your brain out of the repeatitive thinking. Then when you are feeling stronger go back and writing down exactly what is creating your anxiety.

26 Feb 2018

Continued..

26 Feb 2018

Thanks everyone! I love all you Pandas. <3 I did try and get things sorted out. Managed to get through a hectic Monday and missed classes on Tuesday but I'm trying to forgive myself and focusing on tomorrow! Hugs to all of you xx

28 Feb 2018

Please forgive yourself! It already happened, so getting angry at yourself has no use. 🙂 try to focus on today and all the things you have to do today. ❤️

28 Feb 2018
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I slept for 20 hours and missed classes. I haven't attended a single class for 3 days - the last class I attended was on Friday. I literally hate myself. I keep doing this and I feel like ***.

Also, question. A situation with one of my best friends is upsetting me. We used to tell each other everything but there are a couple of things that he now doesn't tell me. Still tells me he trusts me but has 'reasons' for doing that.I get his (cont)

21 Feb 2018

(cont) right to privacy but is it wrong for me to feel hurt? I feel so betrayed. And now I feel like I can't be completely vulnerable with him because there are boundaries set. :/ Am I overreacting?

21 Feb 2018

Thank you Nick and Josie!

21 Feb 2018

That's sucks I'm sorry to here that

21 Feb 2018

Thank you, everyone

23 Feb 2018
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Haven't gotten any work done and feel super horrible. It's my fault but it's like I can't stop procrastinating and thinking about things.

:( I'm feeling the same way. I gave in to compulsivity instead of working. Let's forgive ourselves and try again later or tomorrow.

20 Feb 2018

Thank you guys xx

21 Feb 2018
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Exhausted. So many assignments and projects and presentations. I'm so sleepy even though I slept for ages. Plus, I overslept and missed all my classes today.

Thank you, Nick!

19 Feb 2018

Sounds like the body needed the rest

20 Feb 2018

Ha, if you count 15 hours as rest!

20 Feb 2018

Thanks, everyone!

20 Feb 2018

Good luck Kara

20 Feb 2018

Thank you Tasha, Des and Esther! Much love to you guys

21 Feb 2018
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Better now but was a 1 before. Crying for no reason, depressed as hell. It comes and goes, but sometimes it feels so bloody overwhelming and one day it's going to win.

I know the feeling. But it does pass. Even if it's for just a little bit, it does pass. Stay strong.

19 Feb 2018

It won't win! Trust me, the feeling passes eventually and you WILL feel better!

19 Feb 2018

Thank you, guys. I'm better today.

19 Feb 2018

Thanks, Sandy!

20 Feb 2018
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Feeling empty again. What else is new? In other news, I've been gone for so long. Missed all of your updates.

Thank you, Lydia!

16 Feb 2018

Welcome back. Sorry you're feeling empty. :(

16 Feb 2018

Welcome back Kara! Lovely to see you, sorry you're feeling so low xx

16 Feb 2018

I can relate. Emptiness is awful.

16 Feb 2018

Thank you, everyone! Lots of love and huge hugs to you all.

18 Feb 2018
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Psychiatrist appointment went well. New dose is really helping.
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