My partner is abusive and puts me down constantly. Today he said 'fix your tucking brain!' because I'm sad and grieving something. He drinks too much and treats me like garbage. I can't leave because of the kids...have nowhere to go and I hate my life so much

this is actually really serious. i know it's gonna be hard to do, but you should probably try to either get couples therapy or divorce them.

14 Oct 2021

There are resources online that can help you safely and anonymously get help and figure out a plan. I bet Mood Panda staff would be happy to help you find something in your area!

14 Oct 2021

holy shoot this is serious you need to get out of this relationship like now, you need to get yourself and your children away from him because he might become abusive to your children as well eventually. please please take this to court or get help

14 Oct 2021
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It's impossible to meet a nice human who makes me happy
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I can't forgive my partner for not wanting to have a 2nd child w me. I am 40 and feeling heartbroken. He's such a jerk about it too. Says I should just get over my pity party and focus on the kid I have

Did you speak about how many children you wanted before? Did he go back on his word? Both feelings/desires regarding children are valid. If he doesn't want children it would be bad to have one that he would then regret or resent. But it's not ok for

13 Oct 2021

Him to disregard your feelings or talk to you like that. Ultimately, if you both want different things then maybe you need to have a serious talk about your relationship and where things are heading.

13 Oct 2021

He totally disregards my feelings.

14 Oct 2021

He thinks it's dumb I'm grieving because I already have a kid and shouldn't have more because of depression history

14 Oct 2021

He uses my history of mental health against me even though I'm doing my best and my kid loves me

14 Oct 2021

Yes I have panic attacks but I've never been a bad mom. Have always worked hard and provided for my kid and have never hurt them in any way

14 Oct 2021

Perhaps he is just worried about you, that it would be overwhelming to look after more children? I know I couldn't handle the stress of it. But if he is really being horrible about it and doesn't respect you is he really worth being with?

14 Oct 2021

No he's just selfish and wants to get his way. It's not about love for me. It's about him getting his dreams

14 Oct 2021
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I don't eat well and want to change my diet but I lean on food due to depression
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My partner doesn't want to have a 2nd child with me. I'm 40 and running out of time. Our baby is almost 2 and want a sibling. How can I not resent him? I cry every week over this. I hate him :-(
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I yelled at a random man in line at Starbucks because he wouldn't distance and was standing so close to me. I felt bad after. Just super frustrated that everyone thinks the pandemic is over and I have two little kids who are too young for vaccines
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My partner won't have a 2nd child with me and I'm so heartbroken. I love babies. I am 40 and our baby is turning 2 in December. We are losing our window to have another one. Nothing will change his mind. I'm going through grief
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Sitting alone in a forest thinking about how no one would miss me I'd I'm gone. My boyfriend doesn't even notice I left the house for a walk alone and am severely depressed. All he cares about is his phone. He ignores me every day and doesn't really listen to a thing or want or need.
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Feeling so bad today. My mom was very abusive and ignored me all day, put me down and ga*** me. She horrified me for being nervous about sending my kids to school during Covid. They are too young to be vaxxed. She called me anxious and paranoid and said 99% of other moms were not worried and I was a freak. Told my boyfriend how bad I felt but honestly he doesn't really care, I'm sitting alone
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Feeling so bad today. My mom was very abusive and ignored me all day, put me down and ga*** me. She horrified me for being nervous about sending my kids to school during Covid. They are too young to be vaxxed. She called me anxious and paranoid and said 99% of other moms were not worried and I was a freak. Told my boyfriend how bad I felt but honestly he doesn't really care, I'm sitting alone
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Posted a photo I was proud of on social media and not one person liked it. I spent a lot of time setting up the food photo and baking the dessert. Just feel really bad that not one of my friends liked it. I won't post again anymore

You know, do it not for people , enjoy the cooking, eat with pleasure, for yourself, for your family, don't wait reaction from people. When you waiting it you can't be free inside. You depend on other opinions and it is the worst cage in the world...

10 Aug 2021

Good luck)and good job.👍✌

10 Aug 2021
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Feeling a lot of grief today because my partner won't have a 2nd child with me. I am 40 and sad/grieving loss. Partner has zero empathy and always gets his way in the relationship.
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I want to stop posting so much impulsively on social media when I'm emotional or triggered by something. Any tips?

It might not be an option for you but I found that deleting social media apps from my phone helps with that stuff. It's very freeing!

16 Oct 2020
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I don't want to lose my job but don't know what to tell her. I'm terrified of sending my kids to daycare because one has asthma and there's already been a Covid case in the centre
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I am overwhelmed and lost. I'm entitled legally to an 18 month mat leave where I live but my boss is pressuring me to return after 13 months. We don't want to send our baby to daycare yet.

Due to Covid

15 Oct 2020
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I am not working right now due to Covid so $700 is a lot to waste on furniture that never gets built
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Up from a zero to a 2 today after a horrible fight with my abusive mother. She will never change so I have to change how I interact with her. She's the worst

I'm so sorry,let's not let nutty abusive family members ruin our chances of happiness ay ? ! Each person deserves happiness and nobody has the right to try and sabotage it for another , mother ,sister, brother nor father ! Amen to that xx 🌈🤓🧘

11 Oct 2020

I can appreciate how hard it gets with parents like that. It sounds like you've got a good perspective on it because you're right, some people never change. But you can be the better person. You can do this.

11 Oct 2020
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Was doing ok and then my neighbor came home from a flight from LA. She lives across the hall and was supposed to be distancing but was not. So I reported her to my landlord and now feel bad
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My partner never sleeps with me and it's making me feel ugly and insecure
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my brother bought a house today and I feel sad. He put $125,000 down. I was a single mom for years (child's father not alive) and I am upset he didn't help me financially when we didn't even have food

I am still struggling with money

19 Jul 2020

I don't want to seem selfish. I know he doesn't owe me anything I just feel sad

19 Jul 2020

You aren't selfish! And great to see you again, I was worrying about you!

19 Jul 2020

Awww thanks Anna D!!

20 Jul 2020
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