there are obviously many other factors to why i'm feeling this way, but right now i just need help
i dont even know what kind of help i need but i just need help
Sorry you're having such a bad time. Have you seen a doctor?
I've seen a councellor and a psychiatrist but nothings worked
Please talk to someone. It's really good that you know you need help. Now find it. That's even harder, but it's clear you want that help. Talk to family or a friend. Talk to a professional (find a new one). Call a help line. Something!
I'm so sorry to hear this, Elizabeth - hope Jeff's advice helps you. Keeping you in my thoughts
Thanks, Jeff and Cindy - at least I've recognized that I need help :'D i just wish councelling and all that stuff was free
And good luck to all students with their finals out there!! C:
Wow! Welldone you!! If I had 18 exams, I think I would crack up! You're nearly there! Keep up the great work!! 👌🏽🤗
18 exams, wow, that is so much.. and you are almost there!! Try to stay focused even for the last ones.
Thanks, you guys :D I hope you all are doing well atm!
Have you finished all the exams yet?
No, two more weeks left C': Thank you for checking in!
Almost there, well done!, it must have been so stressful! Proud of you for getting this far
Good luck with it. Do you feel you are prepared?
Thanks :) And yeah I think so 😬 I hope so
Do the best you can, that is all anyone can ask of you!! We will be thinking of you
Thank you so much, Lieteke!! 😊 I'll do my best
Really good to hear :)
I hope you're doing great too :D
That's important. Sounds like you got rest, a second wind... and the clarity that comes with that.
Yeah I really did :D I hope you're doing great too ❤️
Some will say if you love yourself (and you're the only one who sees who you really are), you won't care what others think. For me, I rebelled against what others think and took pride in being different and outcast, and I stopped caring.
Regarding asking for help, that's hard. You have to just do it. Start small, maybe? Call a friend just to talk or bring up something minor with a parent or doctor? Ease your way into it, or leap in and admit you need help. That's the hardest step!
Asking for help is a big thing! But it will make your life so much easier!! Just think of the worst thing that could happen ( and probably won't). So what if the say no, what if they laugh at you or think you are mad. You will survive it and move on.
They most probable will be very happy to help you.
Thanks Jeff and Lieteke C: I know for a fact I'm quite a sensitive person, so not caring will be kinda hard
I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts though c:
Also about asking for help, if i'm really honest i'm just scared of to what extent i'll be judged :'D
And what if ypu try it anonymous, through a helpline? You can do it under another name. So even if they judge you, which they won't as they know you are struggling with something, they don't know who you are.
Yeah I have considered it.. I hope it'll be a reliable site though
Thanks by the way C:
One very useful characteristic! :)
I agree, Ly!
The way we talk to ourselves matters. I am x vs A part of me is x or I am having the thought that I am x or I am experiencing x, does not negate the experience, but reframes it, giving us space, some distance to be objective.
I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time, Elizabeth, but your posts display such insight and lyricism that I 'enjoy' them (if you see what I mean:) ). Good to hear that you write - keep going with that. Big hugs xx
hey Cindy, thank you for your kind awareness :) and yes I do enjoy writing a lot - I'm glad to hear you appreciate my updates :)) Hehe bigger hugs back!! I hope you're having a great day xx
You will find the right door, I promise Elizabeth M. Drop kick that stupid door that is standing in the way!
hehe thanks Luna!! I'm taking your advice for that one ;)
Sorry to hear that Elizabeth. No one is boring.
hurts to be dismissed like that. Message to the world: your presence can be a real gift. Please, let's be kind to one another.
You're wanting to be heard- no judgments, no walking away, no advice, just be present, listen, let's connect. is that it?
Thanks, Rorschach :) I will try.
Thanks, Noel. It's alright.
Love: Thank you too -- and yes, I just want someone who can listen. They don't even need to talk... I just want someone who won't walk away.
Thanks, Rorschach! I'll definitely check out that book. And I think that's a really good point you made there, I do try my best to avoid uncomfortable silences. I understand how being genuinely interested is important, I just feel like I give out
a bad 'aura' before the conversation starts (if you get what I mean)... Then suddenly both of us feel slightly uncomfortable with each other's company, and so a conversation is avoided/ended quickly
Although I do enjoy the silence with someone I'm comfortable with. In fact, I would actually prefer to have more 'silence' than actual conversations with another... Thank you so much for the insight Rorschach, I really do appreciate it :D
That's a really good advice, Rorschach. This is something I still have to learn and to understand. I can be comfortably silent with people, but lately most of the time it's turned into uncomfortable for me because I think people are ignoring me.
I've had this problem with one friend in particular. She enjoys talking as much as silence, while I'm constantly in need of attention. Not a good combination, and that's why it hasn't worked lately. I really need to work on myself.
Carnegies book is a classic. I recommend it to my students. Another book on communication is Marshall Rosenbergs NonViolent Communication.
That's a beautiful metaphor, I bet you could re-write anything, or write the story of your illness once you get better. It will get better, I promise, if you seek treatment and hang on in there, everything will be all right. Big hugs.
Thanks, Asya :) I do enjoy writing, although sometimes I find it so hard to get the words out, even on paper hehe. Thank you so much for the support, I hope things will get better - and I wish you well too. Bigger hugs back XX
You're resilient. Sounds like you're needing caring atm. Sometimes the old scars prick
My diary cares for me, and she's the one who keeps me strong most of the time hehe. But of course, thank you for your kind words. And the hugs - I really appreciate it. All of you. :)
Diaries are good listeners. :) Mine date back 3 decades. A beloved English teacher introduced me to the practice.
That's really nice. ^~^ It must feel good to flip through hundreds of previous entries and remind yourself how far you've come. I started writing mine 4 years ago, and I agree that diaries are great at listening <3
It is interesting to see how goals and dreams change, how fears and anxieties dissipate,to see snapshots of how we think at any given point in time.