are worth the pain? Isn´t it better to show you how you are? I mean I´m able to change a bit for him, to cope with his problems, but one should be honest with each other. To say I don´t like this or that, you´re too fast with this... I liked on me
and J that we were honest with each other. That he was able to show his feelings, that he was tired or didn´t like something. But for him, it meant we were only friends. I´m afraid he would like to have this sham in our relationship if we had one.
Maybe better that he said no. But I would be happy if he understood that sham is no way for a happy life, that he should be assertive, but comprehensive on the other hand. Or try at least. But maybe he expects relationships are only for perfect
people and wants this sham
Decoupling is hard.Its like Brexit, takes months, sometimes years to disentangle from a relationship.
in last 5 years. I can't understand it all was for nothing. For a love that isn't repeated. Mom doesn't help me, only tells 'to stop thinking about it'.
It all hurts. I don't believe I'll find a guy like him, who respects me, as I am, who's kind to me, who makes me feel sure when I'm with him.
❤️ It's hard being in love. It's harder being out of love.
what I'll do when he doesn't. I'm afraid he doesn't want to be a friend of mine anymore. Maybe he really just needs a time to range his mind. Whatever it comes from it.
still hope. That he tells me he wants me. It´s all the stupid covid time that makes us depressive.
our office and cried when I told her the appointment hadn´t been cancelled. A former client to whom we believed he would behave better, but who takes drugs and drinks alcohol now. Minister not respecting his own rules. Will the world be normal again?
(At 5pm, not now..)
weren't respectful for his specific needs (Asperger's + ADHD). But I would, I'm the same like him... I wrote him, he didn't take it. I'm afraid he's so persuaded he's the bad one he will be like this forever. I would be happy to see him happy, better
happy with another girl than unhappy with me. But he's so depressive... I understand this, I know this feeling, I would support him as good as I could, but he doesn't want to come out of there. He thinks that all the relationships are the same...
Still hoping. We had 6 days of conversation about our point of view on the relationships, now 5 day's break. I'll wait until Monday, then I'll write him, to know if we're still friends. Hoping he says he will try. But rationally I know he won't...
GREAT BIG HUGS MY FRIEND ❤ XXX
Thanks Shelley and you all!
I still tell myself what I could have done to please him, to persuade him our relationship would be other than his previous ones. I'm also sad because I see he's got too low self-esteem and very pesimistic point of view on the world. I know how it
hurts. He doesn't want to change it, he thinks it's just so. But he could be happy if he changes his mind... I'm so sad for him, I hurts me, because I know how it must hurt him. I don't want to force him to be with me, I don't want him to be unhappy.
But I don't want him to be unhappy, that's why I want him to be more optimistic. He hasn't written me since Saturday. I know it's nothing, but I feel so lonely. I was writing with my friend, but I just realized she doesn't have time for herself.
Because of me... I wouldn't be a good girlfriend for J. I would be too egoistic. It might be better he doesn't want to be with me. Even though he says I'm sympathetic and kind and that he likes being with me and he cares about me. He's kind, he had
been writing with me 6 days long even though I know he doesn't worry muc
that he doesn't write much. Every time I wrote him something that might look like I'm feeling bad, he tried to conciliate me. Hi isn't this love? Why I think he loves me... I'm still hoping he tells me it was too fast and that he changed his mind.
But I don't want to push him in a relationship he doesn't want to be in. It would hurt him and I would feel even worse...
I hope so much he will change his mind...
Wear something that looks good on you and send him some photos.
Hope things work out for the best
@John: Thanks, but I don't think it helps... He doesn't want to have any relationship, because of his low self-esteem, because he thinks he only would be a kind of burden, because he thinks that a relationship is only for young and handsome people (I
@John: told him he's handsome for me, but he thinks an 'objective' beauty and perfectness and isn't able to understand that it doesn't exist). I'm worrying about him. I'm really afraid he'll ***e himself once... That's what hurts me much more than
@John: the fact he doesn't want to be with me, even though it hurts a lot.
@Albertine: Thank you... No change for now... I'm still hoping 😢
You are intelligent and desirable, Анна. There are over 7 billion people you can pick from. Enjoy trying them out first!
world is full of suffering. I
want to help him somehow to feel better. Not because of me or some idea that he would go out with me if he felt better, but because I know how much one suffer with these ideas in his head...
Extra hugs, Anna x
he doesn´t want to see me anymore...
Oh, what a tough moment! He better be gentle with you. Big hugs