Yes, that can definitely be true! I used to care so much for friends. I would go out of my way to help/accomodate them. I would feel hurt at times when those kind of gestures were completely unreturned. For example, one time I was meeting a friend
but she had an appointment to go to. It was raining very heavily and we both got soaked. She left for her appointment while I was waiting for her. I bought really cheap socks and shoes to change into and thought she could do the same. In the end, she
just went straight home after her appointment even though she knew I had been waiting for her, just as soaking wet as she was. I was angry and hurt. But I think I realize that I was the one that went too much out of my way for her. (Ec
(Even though what she did wasn't cry nice.) After many other experiences and feeling like I always had to say yes for a very long time, I realised I needed to prioritise my life. I am the most important person in it! Bottom line, it I nice to be
kind, generous, thoughtful, considerate, helpful, caring - but not to the point where you put yourself out or get hurt. Not unless the person/people you are doing it for are very close, would do the same for you & it is appropriate for the situation.
I hope that doesn't come across as selfish and makes sense. It's just self preservation and self love. Important for your happiness! Best wishes to you!!