few months ago. Added me. And suddenly he wrote to me a week ago. He wrote to me that he wanted to write to me for a few months and only now did he have the courage.
But I tried to leave the counselor. And I'm afraid that's what affected us bad on the connection. That there is currently no more connection between us.
It happened the day I left her. I do not know what happened. Maybe I pushed too much. But I felt comfortable.
So it's weird. Because it was a connection of only a few days. On the phone and messages. That he's telling me he's been thinking about me for months. That he wants me for a few years since we met. That he writes to me all day and suddenly on the
day I left the counselor
He showed me some insecurity. He thought I didn't want him. And that he only wants to marry someone like me. But that doesn't bother me so much. I don't think of it only in the context of the counselor. And is it related to her
expensive and that I was thinking of leaving but I didn't get a happy response.
if it the sensitivity returned. Or the noise came back regardless.
nothing's happening. Not even one thing that will make me happy. I try hard every day but it is impossible when happen bad all the time.
Everyone tells me I'm fine. The counselors think I'm fine. that everything is OK with me. That I can start a project. That I should just think positive that I'm successful.
But nothing is happening in reality. No counselor can help change the stuck reality.
True. No counselor can change what only we can.
after a year. And it stressed him out. Even though something in me did want to leave because that's what he expects to happen.
I want him to want me the way everyone else wants me.
Why does he not understand what is between us. Why does he not understand what he is giving up. Why does he stubborn so much. Just understand that it's too late. I am afraid to think of someone else and then forget him.
I want him to want me the way he wanted me to at first. He just does not understand enough. He will only understand that I will go. I want him so much. And I have suggestions. I just want him. And I know really cute and good guys. And
they want me. And only he does not see. Why.
Poor thing :(. It is always hard when attraction is only one way. But trust my old self... insisting is even harder, and sad
He giving up on us. And we will both move on. But he gives up the most precious thing he has found. That he will never find it again. And all that is find will be less than we had. I'm sure of it. He is not experienced enough to understand that now.
@Lili, Attraction is not just one way. He was sure there was an attraction between us. He knows there is an attraction between us and he has happy with me. He just does not understand
That's why I'm sure he's wrong. Because we had an attraction. That was rare, And it was a good time. And he thinks he wants someone who is similar to him and not different from him. He want freedom. And I pushed him a lot.
And now I have to give him time. And I'm not going to wait for him anymore.
dear me M, I can relate so much to what you are saying... I guess I am going through a similar situation at the moment. Guys simply suck at relationships and are too stupid to invest in thriving couple thing ((
So we're different so what. That's what bothers him. Whatever he feels he is with me he will not feel with anyone. Even though he thinks otherwise. With all the others it will start and end. Nothing will stay forever. What was between us was real.
Thanks all <3
You are right. Don't wait. Just give you some time to grieve and go back to your life.
That I'm want only one. That he, too, will probably remember me when I forget him
stuck with the anger. Sees him in the media. Laughs. Enjoying life. And it eats me from the inside that I'm hurt. Want to tell him everything. But do not know if it will help.
From what I learned. Do not cry for more than two days on anyone! Certainly not on a guy! Beyond that it will put you in a black hole that you will not know how to get out of.
I'm so disappointed in guys not fit to me in a first conversation that I no longer have the strength. I really have no more power.
I am the most not person to meet new guys. Why do I have to go through this nightmare to get to know one normal person.
I'm always attracted to guys with to much confidence. And in the end suffers. And maybe I was wrong to reject a good guy.
Now I'm also going to get blamed on my head from my family.
What I know is that I need to know someone new. Only A got me out of H and H got me out of someone else. And now the most important thing is to get out of it as soon as possible. But no compromise. Because it just makes me miss more what was
spending money on it. That should help.
I will do anything to feel better. The problem is I did cry even before I knew him. But not after. Until the counselor arrived who destroyed everything for us. And I can not blame A. It is God who has given us so many obstacles.
Which made it impossible. And I do not know why God did this to me.
I hope tomorrow will be better. That I will not get up in the morning for anything else that will make me cry. I'm already ignoring the new guy and not answering him.
I do manage to ignore guys who want me. It's rare that I want someone. And now God has separated us.
I know that before that I also wanted more from him. And maybe God has separated us so we can rebuild something better. But I do not want to develop expectations.
Right now only H can get me out of it. Maybe. He's bad for me. But it's more bad for me.
I'm not going to forgive A anymore. So for me there is no going back. It's over. After this morning I decided. I will never give him another chance. And it's completely over for me.
I do have to decide whether to write to him how much he hurt me.To understand what he did. Or just move on with my life. With the pain. But I will not continue with him anyway. No matter how much it hurts me.
Or at least not cry. Why is he so bad to me.
I'm afraid I need to stop crying. That's the only thing that's help me these days. But I'm afraid my head and ears and eyes hurt from it.
person must listen to his heart. Because the heart does not lie. And you can't compromise on a relationship and think it will be okay. Because then the situation becomes much more difficult.
I keep fighting not to compromise in a relationship and my heart tells me no. I sometimes not listen and keep trying.
understand what he did wrong.
And why I'm so hurt. Because he does not understand it. He thinks he was fine.
is I can't continue with him. If he could get me out of this. I would try. I just want to let go
I can't be attracted to any other man in the world anymore.
They say listen to the heart. I know what my heart wants. That's a fact. It's not up to me. Like I always knew my heart was not with H. But only as a friend. And I was right.
I still miss H every day but I knew we could not be perfect together.
I want perfect
How can I go with someone without my heart. Only with logic. Do not want at all even if they promise me it's better. A is not perfect. But my heart did not ask me who to love
Maybe this guy is trying to bring me confidence. He has patience. He has advantages. But I can not. It just hurts me more. Not every conversation with a guy hurts me more. But with the current yes.