I don't think so. It is probably the best thing to do, but I do not have it in me to bring up such conversations. I am too scared he would be angry with me in return
So, now I feel happiness and I feel relaxed
for me, a bpd survivor is one who survived having borderline personality disorder and, more importantly, its successful treatment, as treating bpd may be extremely painful for an individual
speaking from the experience of someone who has been through therapy (me), the therapy is very painful. I read about it in Linehan's books as well. After being stable for 6 years, I come back to therapy and I break down again, that's the idea
unfortunately. But it is worth it. It really is, so find the courage in yourself and go for it
I guess the therapy in general is painful, like when a therapist notes something you do which you didn't know you did, it might hurt a lot. Or a therapist might deliberately be a bit rough on you to motivate you
The idea of DBT is to teach a borderline personality to better tolerate painful feelings. And to tolerate them better, you have to face them and feel them fully
MadBadSad, sorry for the late response, yeah, but those worst tasks are to tolerate various emotions and to regulate them using dbt skills, it's pretty exhausting
I feel for you so much! Please do not read the DBT work book until you are ready. Instead, just try to practice doing one thing at a time and adding to it a bit of concentration, as if you were living the thing you are doing. That's it, only from
time to time when you feel like it. And do not touch the DBT Workbook, it almost drove me to s***e once before
It is if you can handle it. Maybe you are not ready yet. Anyway, you gotta take it really slow, and maybe just start with mindfully doing one thing at a time (the core dbt skill). Eventually it will get easier for you to confront painful stuff
It's just that I have been stable for 6 years after 2 years of therapy: a year of CBT and a year of DBT.
But now I feel spiraling down, and had extreme ***al ideation last week. I went back to therapy and already have to call my therapist to stabilize myself. I feel like my brain is broken... does anyone relate to a story like that?
Hi, Marina, I've only gotten my BPD diagnosis last fall, and due to language barrier I've had very little therapy. I've never been stable yet, and I find your story quite inspiring , actually! If I can have six years of stability! Omg that would be
fantastic. As far as I know it's never completely cured, but I'm sure you can have even longer periods of stability. Keep working, you are doing so well, I am very very impressed by you!
Alicia, thank you so much! It's the dialectical behavioral therapy that helped me so, so maybe you can look for it when you can