Oh, there is this old book The Dream Game by psychologist Ann Faraday & teaches you how to use your dreams and figure out what they mean on your own, like a movie made for you by you! I got a lot out of the book.
So if you dreams get too unsettling they are jumping up and down to get your attention. You can ask them to please try a calmer way to saying what is so urgent. It's like emails to your subconscious. That is a super basic concept from the book,